by Rhett Smith | Jul 18, 2018 | Intentional Living, Podcast
“I’d like to know more, of course, but I’ve accepted that there’s nothing more he has to say; I’ve accepted that there’s a limit on our knowledge of even those who are closest to us. The older one gets the more one realises how saturated life is in mystery, and...
by Rhett Smith | Jun 16, 2016 | Marriage, Podcast
In my time on staff at the Hideaway Experience doing marriage intensives, my co-therapists and I had a few rules that we would often write out for the 4 couples on the their first day of intensive work. We found that having some guiding principles (rules) made the...
by Rhett Smith | Dec 3, 2015 | Marriage, Podcast, Restoration Therapy
This last week I have spent some time talking to you about the Pain Cycle and Peace Cycle in Terry Hargrave’s Restoration Therapy model. I love the Pain and Peace Cycle because it has transformed my life. It’s transformed me as an individual, as well as my...
by Rhett Smith | Sep 11, 2011 | Marriage
“Our relationship lives in the space between us – it doesn’t live in me or in you or even in the dialogue between the two us – it lives in the space we live together and that space is sacred space.” –Martin Buber Such a beautiful quote by the Jewish...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 14, 2011 | Marriage
Rainer Maria Rilke on Marriage: “The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 1, 2011 | Marriage
“What books do you recommend we read in our premarital counseling?” That has been a question I have been getting a lot of recently. Whether it’s a Facebook message from a friend, an @rhetter comment on Twitter, or some email I receive from someone...
by Rhett Smith | May 12, 2009 | Marriage
Two of my favorite poets are the German poet Rainer Maria Rilke and the Lebanese American poet Kahlil Girban. One of the things that has drawn me to these two poets, especially when they write on love and marriage is the way in which they speak of relational...
