Four Simple Benefits of Couple’s Therapy

[image by mikebaird] Working with couples is great. With two people in the room (not including therapist/counselor) it can make for quite an interesting, interactive, and great experience. Sure, it can be hard. Tears and strong words may flow. But in the midst of that...

Marriage: Freedom and Belonging

“For a person is the single most limitless entity in creation, and if there is anything that is even more unlimited and unrestrained in its possibilities than is a person, it is two people together. Not everyone is as fond of solitude as I have been. And...

Are You Afraid of Marriage?

[image by makelessnoise] Yesterday I posted about therapist David Schnarch’s view that marriages (committed relationships) are “people growing machines.” But for us to grow in a committed relationship obviously takes a lot of work and a lot of...

“People Growing Machines”

[image by Todd Baker] For the next couple of weeks I’m going to take a look at the topic of marriage and relationships in general. One of my favorite authors on the topic of relationships/marriage is David Schnarch, author of Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love...

Two Blogging Resources

One of the things that I want to do during these 100 posts in 100 days series is to point you to some resources (books, articles, therapists, conferences, blogs, etc.) There are some great blogs written by some great therapists out there. Two local therapists that I...

Family Holiday Traditions

[image by iChaz] We all know that holiday traditions are important to the life of a family. So as we approach the 4th of July tomorrow I have a few questions for you. What is your favorite 4th of July family tradition growing up? What’s your favorite 4th of July...

Book Recommendation: Therapy Demystified

Considering the posts I’ve written over the last week, I thought the following book would be a helpful recommendation. Therapy Demystified: An Insider’s Guide to Getting the Right Help, Without Going Broke by Kate Scharff. Scharff does a good job of...

Feeling the Freedom to “Shop” for a Therapist

There are lots of reasons that people don’t go to see a therapist (stigma, cost, location, time, etc), but I am convinced that one of the largest fears about looking for a therapist is that people are afraid that they will get stuck with a therapist they...

When Should I Go See a Therapist?

[image by Ted Percival] This is a great question and was actually brought to my attention by a comments thread over on Facebook. In fact, one can Google this question and you will find a variety of answers, ranging from very specific things, to a more broad and...

What to Look for in a Therapist

[image by Matti Mattila] Now that we have talked about how to go about finding a good therapist in the previous post, let’s talk about some things you should be looking for. Now, this is going to differ based on a lot of factors, but I think most often, it will...

How to Find a Good Therapist

I have found that there are a lot of people that are wanting to go to therapy, or at least try it out, but they are really unsure of how to go about finding a good therapist. There are several ways to go about this that I want to share with you, and then I’m...

So What is Marriage and Family Therapy?

[image by mescon] Sometimes I get the question, “So what does a marriage and family therapist do?” It’s a legit question, especially amongst some of the confusion over the differences between a psychologist, counselor, social worker, etc. There are a...

Nope, You Are Definitely Not Crazy…Nor Alone!

Often when people come to therapy there are a couple of things that I notice. One, some people joke with me about how they must be crazy to come to therapy. Or they are quite curious to find out if I think they are crazy. Trust me, you are not crazy. I tell them that...

Is There a Therapy Stigma?

This is Post 1/100 in my 100 posts in 100 days series. [image by Vali] There is a lot to talk about in the next 100 days. Lots. So I thought it would be appropriate to start from the beginning. And by beginning I mean…the idea of going to therapy itself. If you...

Launching My Private Practice

For many of you that know me, and those of you that don’t, launching my own therapy private practice has been something that I have been wanting to do for quite a while. After a lot of years of work in university life, church ministry, pastoral care and...