by Rhett Smith | Nov 11, 2015 | Podcast
Imagine you are in a room and two different type of men walk in. One is encouraging, inspiring and vulnerable. He’s not just there physically, but he has shown up emotionally as well. He’s connected to those around him. And because he shows up this way,...
by Rhett Smith | Sep 9, 2015 | Podcast
It is not unusual for me to be sitting across from a man in my therapy office as he relays to me the story about when he first learned that it was not okay for boys to cry. It is usually a very powerful moment. I have heard men of all ages and backgrounds tell this...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 21, 2014 | Men
Last month I wrote a blog and shot a video called Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy. The two words I was referring to are “stop crying.” It’s a message that is devastating to boys and leads to lots of other problems for them in the future....
by Rhett Smith | Jul 2, 2014 | Men
“Each man is a bridge, spanning in his lifetime all of the images and traditions about masculinity inherited from past generations and bestowing–or inflicting–his own retelling of the tale on those who ensue. Unresolved depression often passes from...
by Rhett Smith | Jun 18, 2014 | Marriage
I love working with couples in marriage counseling, pre-marital counseling, dating…it’s often a lot of fun. This video reminds me of how funny our differences as men and women can be. They are often very painful. But hopefully we can laugh at ourselves...
by Rhett Smith | Jun 9, 2014 | Men
“If you cry again I am going to take you back home!” That is what I told my almost 4 year old son on Wednesday night around 8:00pm. We were riding bikes and he was in that overtired state where he could hardly contain his emotions. He was crying. He was...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 21, 2014 | Men
Are you a ‘life-giving’ man? That is a question that I am often asked. It’s a term that I began to talk about in my last book, What it Means to be a Man. But I’ve begun to explore it more fully in the last 6 months and it is the focus of my...
by Rhett Smith | Dec 12, 2013 | Leadership, Men
I’ve grown up in the Church (son of church planters, pastor, spiritual director, chaplain). I’ve participated and volunteered in the Church my entire life. I’ve been on staff of churches for about 15 years. I love ministry, but I also know there are...
by Rhett Smith | Dec 2, 2013 | Men
No Weak Men Allowed….I think that is the message that men hear from the time they are little boys all the way through the rest of their lives. I know I have heard that message. I know the men I work with have heard that message. It may come from parents,...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 22, 2013 | Men
Honestly, this is a question I have been wondering about for a long time. The irony of the work that I do as a therapist is that ministry leaders are one of the biggest referrers to my practice. They often instinctively see someone who is hurting and in need of help,...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 6, 2013 | Men
About 8 years ago I was sitting in a marriage and family therapy class at Fuller Theological Seminary when the professor made an off the cuff remark about the marital satisfaction of a pastor and their spouse. The professor’s experience was that pastors (in this...
by Rhett Smith | Oct 24, 2013 | Men
Next Tuesday at 1pm Central(11amPST/2pmEST) I am very excited to be bringing you my webinar, 3 Simple Steps That Transform a Man’s Potential to Live a Connected and Thriving Life!!!. I have been working with men for a very long time in all kinds of settings...
by Rhett Smith | Oct 2, 2013 | Men
“Everyone one of you when you walk into a room can probably tell the difference between a man who is life-giving. That is, he essentially breathes life into other people. He is encouraging, passionate, listening. You know what that looks and feels like,...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 22, 2013 | Men
For the last seven to eight years I’ve really been exploring this idea of vocation, and it seems that it is a topic that I’ve had more and more conversations with people as of late. In fact, I blogged on this topic just a couple of months ago. In my...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 8, 2013 | Men
My book publisher Moody just created a “man/woman on the street” video, asking, “What does it mean to be a man?” So that has me wondering, what do you think it means to be a man? Whether you think the view is right, wrong, or in-between,...
by Rhett Smith | Jun 10, 2013 | Men
Fathers…how much time to you spend with your kids? I was intrigued by the article in the New York Times this last week, The Triumph of the Working Mother. Though there are parts of the article I would want to know more about and may dispute, what I found most...
by Rhett Smith | Jun 4, 2013 | Men
Several weeks ago I started a video series on my new book, What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes. I began with an introduction to the book, and today I talk about Chapter 1: Archetypes — The Making of Men. In this video...
by Rhett Smith | May 2, 2013 | Men
For my new book, What it Means to be a Man, I am going to be posting videos for each of the chapters. The videos will be short, and will describe the content of each chapter and why I felt that was an important theme for men to tackle. I hope that these videos will be...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 30, 2013 | Men
When I initially set out to write What it Means to be a Man, I had in mind a picture of the typical guy who comes into my office for counseling. Probably somewhere between 20-55. Struggling with relationships. Has shut themselves off from their emotions and feelings....
by Rhett Smith | Apr 29, 2013 | Men
My new book What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes officially comes out this Wednesday, May 1 (even though Amazon says it came out April 12). I’m very excited about this new book and thankful for the amazing team of...
