by Rhett Smith | Nov 11, 2015 | Podcast
Imagine you are in a room and two different type of men walk in. One is encouraging, inspiring and vulnerable. He’s not just there physically, but he has shown up emotionally as well. He’s connected to those around him. And because he shows up this way,...
by Rhett Smith | Sep 9, 2015 | Podcast
It is not unusual for me to be sitting across from a man in my therapy office as he relays to me the story about when he first learned that it was not okay for boys to cry. It is usually a very powerful moment. I have heard men of all ages and backgrounds tell this...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 21, 2014 | Men
Last month I wrote a blog and shot a video called Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy. The two words I was referring to are “stop crying.” It’s a message that is devastating to boys and leads to lots of other problems for them in the future....
by Rhett Smith | Jul 2, 2014 | Men
“Each man is a bridge, spanning in his lifetime all of the images and traditions about masculinity inherited from past generations and bestowing–or inflicting–his own retelling of the tale on those who ensue. Unresolved depression often passes from...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 21, 2014 | Men
Are you a ‘life-giving’ man? That is a question that I am often asked. It’s a term that I began to talk about in my last book, What it Means to be a Man. But I’ve begun to explore it more fully in the last 6 months and it is the focus of my...
by Rhett Smith | Dec 2, 2013 | Men
No Weak Men Allowed….I think that is the message that men hear from the time they are little boys all the way through the rest of their lives. I know I have heard that message. I know the men I work with have heard that message. It may come from parents,...
by Rhett Smith | Oct 2, 2013 | Men
“Everyone one of you when you walk into a room can probably tell the difference between a man who is life-giving. That is, he essentially breathes life into other people. He is encouraging, passionate, listening. You know what that looks and feels like,...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 8, 2013 | Men
My book publisher Moody just created a “man/woman on the street” video, asking, “What does it mean to be a man?” So that has me wondering, what do you think it means to be a man? Whether you think the view is right, wrong, or in-between,...
by Rhett Smith | May 2, 2013 | Men
For my new book, What it Means to be a Man, I am going to be posting videos for each of the chapters. The videos will be short, and will describe the content of each chapter and why I felt that was an important theme for men to tackle. I hope that these videos will be...
by Rhett Smith | May 1, 2013 | Men
Amazon says the book launched on April 12th. But today is actually the official day of the launch of What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes. I am very excited about this book, and it’s always cool to see an idea come to...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 30, 2013 | Men
When I initially set out to write What it Means to be a Man, I had in mind a picture of the typical guy who comes into my office for counseling. Probably somewhere between 20-55. Struggling with relationships. Has shut themselves off from their emotions and feelings....
by Rhett Smith | Apr 29, 2013 | Men
My new book What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes officially comes out this Wednesday, May 1 (even though Amazon says it came out April 12). I’m very excited about this new book and thankful for the amazing team of...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 23, 2013 | Men
The above is a quote from Chapter 8 in my new book (coming out May 1) What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes. Vulnerability is one of the major themes that has emerged over the last 18 years in my work with men. Many men want...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 4, 2013 | Men
“When a father tells a child that he can do something, he can do it. I don’t know why that is, except to say that there is some mysterious energy that passes from the male to his children. It is some sort of creative energy that can make things be when...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 1, 2013 | Men
“Little boys and little girls start off with similar psychological profiles. They are equally emotional, expressive, and dependent, equally desirous of physical affection. At the youngest ages, both boys and girls are more like a stereotypical girl. If any differences...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 1, 2013 | Men, Writing
The last 6-7 months have been a blur as I was busy reading, researching, writing, editing — and a whole lot of staring at a blank screen — in preparation for my new book, What It Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes....
by Rhett Smith | Aug 23, 2012 | Men
I’ve been doing a lot of research for my new book (which all I can say at this point is about men). And as I have been doing research I came across this phrase that has really stuck with me: “they live within the boundaries of their competence.” The...
