by Rhett Smith | Nov 30, 2017 | Marriage, Podcast
Often when I’m working with someone in session I try to think of visual and tangible ways that they can remember some of the things that we are processing together. And what I have noticed a lot about relational interactions is that there tends to be this...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 9, 2017 | Marriage, Podcast
Over the last several years my wife and I have begun a new journey in our life. That journey has involved a couple of elements: 1) Trying to incorporate more adventure into our marriage (i.e. trips, taking on challenges, etc.); 2) Working on ways to partner together...
by Rhett Smith | Oct 12, 2017 | Marriage, Podcast
One of the reasons many couples can’t solve conflict in their relationship is because they often get stuck thinking that their argument is really about the topic at hand (i.e. money, sex, parenting, work, inlaws, etc.). And as long as they believe that, then...
by Rhett Smith | Sep 21, 2017 | Anxiety, Podcast
I talk a lot about anxiety on this podcast. And sometimes anxiety can seem vague or too theoretical, unless one really has experienced. And even then, just talking about it can seem like an intellectual exercise. But today I had a personal experience that really makes...
by Rhett Smith | Jun 5, 2017 | Marriage, Podcast
Several weeks ago I had the opportunity to share with the ReEngage Ministry at Hope Fellowship the topic of forgiveness. It’s such an important topic not only in all of our lives, but especially in the context of marriage where one’s ability to forgive...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 23, 2017 | Marriage, Podcast
This last weekend I led a class on fostering intimacy in marriage to a group of premarital couples. I love doing this work, but intimacy can be a complicated issue. When we think of intimacy in our culture we often think of sex, or at least physical intimacy to say...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 8, 2017 | Marriage, Podcast
If I had to take a guess, I would guess that at least 50-60% of every couple that I work with is in my office because of an affair. Affairs come in varied forms from the physical to the emotional and everything in between. And affairs don’t discriminate based on...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 17, 2016 | Marriage, Podcast
One of the most common questions I get is about what marriage book I might recommend. That is a tough question in some ways because there are so many books out there, and every person responds to a certain book differently. So it’s hard to be too prescriptive on...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 8, 2016 | Marriage, Podcast
Last week I had the privilege of speaking to one of my favorite groups…MOPS. In this case it was the MOPS group at First Baptist Frisco which is an awesome group I have had the opportunity to speak to before (as well as their MOMSnext group). And as I was...
by Rhett Smith | Aug 17, 2016 | Marriage, Podcast
I have the great privilege of working with couples in my office on a daily basis. Some come to me before they are married, some within a few years of marriage, but the great majority of them come to see me after a crisis that was indicative of the marital drift in...
by Rhett Smith | Aug 11, 2016 | Marriage, Parenting
One of the things that I’ve noticed a lot about relationships and conflict, is that a lot of it tends to happen in periods of daily transition. For example, conflict tends to arise when people are leaving the house in the morning, or coming home later in the...
by Rhett Smith | Aug 4, 2016 | Marriage
I’m not quite exactly sure of the origin of learning about this communication technique, but I know it must have morphed together from all of my training and experience as a therapist…so I’m sure it has it’s roots in varying theorists, I just...
by Rhett Smith | Jun 21, 2016 | Men, Podcast
Sunday was Father’s Day. And like Mother’s Day…it can bring up all kinds of emotions for people. Positive emotions. Negative Emotions. Feelings of joy and happiness, or anger and fear, as well as loss. And that’s just to name a few. I am very...
by Rhett Smith | Jun 16, 2016 | Marriage, Podcast
In my time on staff at the Hideaway Experience doing marriage intensives, my co-therapists and I had a few rules that we would often write out for the 4 couples on the their first day of intensive work. We found that having some guiding principles (rules) made the...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 17, 2016 | Marriage, Podcast
Over the course of the last 3 months I have really been wrestling with the question of “how good of a listener am I?” I’ve always thought I was a good listener…I mean, my vocation is essentially to listen to people all day. But I’m sure...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 24, 2016 | Marriage, Podcast, Restoration Therapy
This last weekend I had one of the greatest experiences I have ever had…and that was being able to co-lead a marriage workshop with my wife Heather. Over the last 10 years I have had the opportunity to lead a lot of marriage retreats, conferences, workshops,...
by Rhett Smith | Dec 2, 2015 | Marriage, Podcast, Restoration Therapy
This week I am spending time talking about the Pain and Peace Cycle found in the work of Terry Hargrave and his Restoration Therapy model. As I talk about previous episodes, the Pain Cycle and the Peace Cycle have transformed my life, marriage, relationships,...
by Rhett Smith | Dec 1, 2015 | Marriage, Podcast, Restoration Therapy
In the previous podcast episode I talked about just how life transforming the Pain and Peace Cycle work have been to my life both personally and relationally. Ever since I learned these tools when I went on staff at The Hideaway Experience in 2010 I have continued to...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 30, 2015 | Marriage, Podcast, Restoration Therapy
One of the tools that has changed my life in such an amazing way…that at times it’s really hard to explain…is learning the Pain and Peace Cycle in the work of Terry Hargrave in his Restoration Therapy model. In fact, in Episode 21 of this podcast I...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 18, 2015 | Marriage, Podcast, Restoration Therapy
This last week my wife and I spent two days training with Sharon Hargrave in her Marriage Strong curriculum. There were several reasons why we wanted to attend the training: 1) We know how much working through our Pain and Peace Cycle has transformed our own marriage;...
