by Rhett Smith | Feb 23, 2017 | Marriage, Podcast
This last weekend I led a class on fostering intimacy in marriage to a group of premarital couples. I love doing this work, but intimacy can be a complicated issue. When we think of intimacy in our culture we often think of sex, or at least physical intimacy to say...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 21, 2014 | Men
Are you a ‘life-giving’ man? That is a question that I am often asked. It’s a term that I began to talk about in my last book, What it Means to be a Man. But I’ve begun to explore it more fully in the last 6 months and it is the focus of my...
by Rhett Smith | Dec 16, 2013 | Marriage
“A sociologist once observed that the prevalence of intimacy themes in mass media, pop psychology, and ‘alternative lifestyles’ suggests that were driven by hunger for intimate union. It may look like this on the surface, but my clinical work helped...
by Rhett Smith | May 1, 2013 | Men
Amazon says the book launched on April 12th. But today is actually the official day of the launch of What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes. I am very excited about this book, and it’s always cool to see an idea come to...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 30, 2013 | Men
When I initially set out to write What it Means to be a Man, I had in mind a picture of the typical guy who comes into my office for counseling. Probably somewhere between 20-55. Struggling with relationships. Has shut themselves off from their emotions and feelings....
by Rhett Smith | Apr 29, 2013 | Men
My new book What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes officially comes out this Wednesday, May 1 (even though Amazon says it came out April 12). I’m very excited about this new book and thankful for the amazing team of...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 28, 2013 | Marriage
“Thanks to a series of influential research studies, the things people who succeed in intimate relationships do differently from those who fail have been discovered by researchers. One of the most important differences involves how people react when they...
by Rhett Smith | May 19, 2010 | Marriage
[image by Jesse Millan] In the last year I have blogged on the topics of ambient intimacy/ambient awareness, as well as some of the discussion involving the use of technology in fostering intimacy. I was a big fan of this topic, and a believer in the use of technology...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 11, 2009 | Marriage
[image by nzgabriel] Differentiation is a natural process in committed relationships that involves developing more of a self while growing closer to your partner. Men often sacrifice their relationship to hold onto their sense of self. Women often sacrifice their...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 10, 2009 | Marriage
“For a person is the single most limitless entity in creation, and if there is anything that is even more unlimited and unrestrained in its possibilities than is a person, it is two people together. Not everyone is as fond of solitude as I have been. And...
by Rhett Smith | May 6, 2009 | Marriage
“Stewart and Shannon were dealing with one of the most pervasive problems of intimate partnership, the drawing of personal boundaries. Boundaries exist on two levels: behavioral and emotional. Behavioral boundaries refer to the preferred amount of togetherness...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 23, 2009 | Marriage
Recently I have been listening to the audio version of the David Snarch’s book Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Emotionally-Committed Relationships. One of the things that he says in the lecture is (and I’m restating in my own words): That...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 10, 2009 | Marriage
McLuhan and Twitter via John Dyer This is a post I have had in the making for a while, but when I read John Dyer’s post Tools for Tech Thinking: McLuhan on Twitter, and well, he unknowingly gave me some inspiration to post some of my thoughts on this issue. Read...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 3, 2008 | Marriage
Looking to Connect It is no surprise to any of us that people are looking online to connect with others, and that in the process a certain level of intimate needs are met. Whether it’s a chat group, dating service, blog or class reunion site, people are finding...
by Rhett Smith | May 16, 2008 | Technology
It’s funny how some words become commonplace in a community or culture. As a resident of Los Angeles you hear a lot of talk about “sex” and “sushi.” It seems that these are two things that Angelenos highly esteem. So when I came across...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 29, 2008 | Writing
I am really behind in some reviews, but here is what is on deck: Sex, Sushi, & Salvation: Thoughts on Intimacy, Community, & Eternity by Christian George. I am almost done with this book and will have a review shortly. But so far, I really like what I see. ...