“Ruthlessly Eliminate Hurry”

Not long after moving to Chicago, I called a wise friend to ask for some spiritual direction. I described the pace of life in my current ministry. The church where I serve tends to move at a fast clip. I also told him about our rhythms of family life: we are in the...

Finding Ultra — Conversations on Self-Care

Last Friday I briefly touched on the topic of self-care because I think it is a super important issue. I know that in my work just as a marriage and family therapist, that one of the main issues that keeps couples in an endless loop of conflict is their inability to...

Daily Dose #11: ‘The Longevity Project’

How to Keep Going and Going: In an eight-decade study, parental divorce in childhood was the strongest predictor of early death in adulthood. There are no magic potions on offer here, but many of the findings are provocative. The best childhood predictor of longevity,...

How Do You Say No To Good Things?

I came across this Tweet from Anne Jackson today, and it resonated with me a lot. Learning to say no to good things. It’s always hard, but it’s necessary. I’ve been losing focus lately. I know we all have lots of good things on our plate. We have...