Men’s Disconnect with Vulnerability and Connection

The above is a quote from Chapter 8 in my new book (coming out May 1) What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes. Vulnerability is one of the major themes that has emerged over the last 18 years in my work with men. Many men want...

Transforming Your Anxiety: Anxiety in Relationships

“When we can stand face-to-face with another human being in all of our anxiety, and we don’t have to try to run or hide from it, that is the beginning of a true relational connection.” One of the areas of life that we often tend to experience the...

Grandiosity: Terrence Real on Working with Men in Therapy

Here’s an interesting video excerpt from Terry Real on working with men in therapy. Specifically around the issue of grandiosity. Terrence Real writes: To understand the importance of leverage, you have to understand grandiosity, especially male grandiosity....

Transforming Your Anxiety: Getting Intentional

Intentional = done on purpose; deliberate. On the first morning of The Hideaway Experience four-day marriage intensive we start off with a devotional from John 5:1-9. The passage of scripture reads like this: Some time later, Jesus went up to Jerusalem for one of the...

Transforming Your Anxiety: Wrestling with God

“In many circumstances, as we experience anxiety, we may be tempted not to face it. We may be tempted to turn the other way and not acknowledge that it is there. But if God uses anxiety in our lives as a way to help us grow, then we must not turn away from it....