by Rhett Smith | Apr 10, 2013 | Marriage
In this clip, marriage researcher and therapist John Gottman talks about the “four horsemen of the apocalypse” — which are predictors of divorce. In this video he deals specifically with the issue of contempt. Gottman states that not only is contempt...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 16, 2011 | Marriage
How to Keep Going and Going: In an eight-decade study, parental divorce in childhood was the strongest predictor of early death in adulthood. There are no magic potions on offer here, but many of the findings are provocative. The best childhood predictor of longevity,...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 15, 2011 | Marriage
That is the question that Corey Allan addresses in his blog post, “What do you fear most in your marriage?” Failing to acknowledge a possibility does not make it go away. Inherent in every relationship is the ending of it. But when you honestly address the...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 18, 2009 | Marriage
[image (47/365) :: Saga] Triangling Facebook Into the Marital Unit Often I find myself working with a kid in therapy whose parents have brought him/her in because of the problems they are creating in the family. In therapy/counseling terms that kid has become the...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 9, 2009 | Marriage
“Perhaps the biggest myth of all is that communication–and more specifically, learning to resolve your conflicts–is the royal road to romance and an enduring, happy marriage. Whatever a marriage therapist’s theoretical orientation, whether you...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 8, 2009 | Marriage
[image by makelessnoise] Yesterday I posted about therapist David Schnarch’s view that marriages (committed relationships) are “people growing machines.” But for us to grow in a committed relationship obviously takes a lot of work and a lot of...
