by Rhett Smith | Mar 27, 2020 | Marriage, Videos
During times of high stress, like we are facing right now with the COVID-19 quarantine, it is no surprise that conflict is high for many couples. In this video I talk about some specific things you can do to help you navigate the high stress and conflict.
by Rhett Smith | Aug 11, 2016 | Marriage, Parenting
One of the things that I’ve noticed a lot about relationships and conflict, is that a lot of it tends to happen in periods of daily transition. For example, conflict tends to arise when people are leaving the house in the morning, or coming home later in the...
by Rhett Smith | Aug 4, 2016 | Marriage
I’m not quite exactly sure of the origin of learning about this communication technique, but I know it must have morphed together from all of my training and experience as a therapist…so I’m sure it has it’s roots in varying theorists, I just...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 17, 2016 | Marriage, Podcast
Over the course of the last 3 months I have really been wrestling with the question of “how good of a listener am I?” I’ve always thought I was a good listener…I mean, my vocation is essentially to listen to people all day. But I’m sure...
by Rhett Smith | May 1, 2013 | Men
Amazon says the book launched on April 12th. But today is actually the official day of the launch of What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes. I am very excited about this book, and it’s always cool to see an idea come to...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 30, 2013 | Men
When I initially set out to write What it Means to be a Man, I had in mind a picture of the typical guy who comes into my office for counseling. Probably somewhere between 20-55. Struggling with relationships. Has shut themselves off from their emotions and feelings....
by Rhett Smith | Apr 29, 2013 | Men
My new book What it Means to be a Man: God’s Design for Us in a World Full of Extremes officially comes out this Wednesday, May 1 (even though Amazon says it came out April 12). I’m very excited about this new book and thankful for the amazing team of...
by Rhett Smith | May 3, 2012 | Marriage
It probably took me a good 5-6 years of marriage before I realized that the fights my wife Heather and I were having were rarely ever about the issue that we were fighting about. The fight is just the top of the surface, or as I like to tell couples — the top of...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 12, 2012 | Marriage
Often in the midst of a therapy session a couple will frustratingly declare to me, “We never communicate.” The truth is that they are communicating all the time, but they just don’t like the message their partner is sending them. If my wife decides...
by Rhett Smith | Jan 24, 2012 | Men
“What is the most important thing you can do for a depressed husband, father, or son? Without a doubt it is to communicate love and acceptance to them with all the power you can muster, and to avoid blaming them or being judgmental about their depression. Your...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 1, 2011 | Marriage
“What books do you recommend we read in our premarital counseling?” That has been a question I have been getting a lot of recently. Whether it’s a Facebook message from a friend, an @rhetter comment on Twitter, or some email I receive from someone...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 22, 2010 | Marriage
[image by globevisions] One of the things that seems to be a common trend among couples I work with in therapy is that there is an assumption about the relational boundaries that each of them will/are keeping. There is an assumption, but rarely something they have...
by Rhett Smith | Aug 31, 2009 | Leadership
I had a chance to sit down with Carlos Whitaker after the ECHO Conference and to talk about the upcoming Cultivate Conference in Chicago, October 27. Check out Carlos below as he talks about why you should attend. We hope to see you there.
by Rhett Smith | Dec 12, 2008 | Leadership
Text Messaging: Best Way to Communicate? I came across the article Gmail Preferred By Students, But Nothing Beats Texting, this morning via Twitter (HT: Terry Storch & Matt Knisely). Lots of interesting things in this article but a couple stood out to me in...
by Rhett Smith | Nov 11, 2008 | Leadership
Chris Brogan has a fascinating post, Communications in a Post Media World. He begins by saying, When Google is the front door, the side door, the hidden key under the mat, the cash register, the finder of everything we ever lost, and everything we wished we’d lost,...
by Rhett Smith | Oct 20, 2008 | Leadership
Heretic Heretic, the one word that you never want to be associated with you as a Christian or ministry worker. OR IS IT? Rather, maybe we need more heretics. Those challenging the status quo in Church. Just maybe we need to think more unorthodox thoughts when it comes...
