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Launching My Private Practice

For many of you that know me, and those of you that don't, launching my own therapy private practice has been something that I have been wanting to do for quite a while. After a lot of years of work in university life, church ministry, pastoral care and non-profit...

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Michael Trent: What Are You Passionate About?

It was approximately three years ago that I had a phone conversation with Michael Trent. He is the "Founder and Idea Engineer" of Third Place Consulting and my church at the time had asked me if I could work with Michael on the concept for our new church coffee...

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The Funnel: Making Decisions Among All The Choices

So how do you make decisions when there are so many choices out there? This is the question I have been wondering a lot about. When you are presented with various opportunities, how do you determine if your choice is the right one? I've been thinking about this...

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The Role of Bible Technology in Shaping our Faith

More great stuff from John Dyer, BibleTech:2009-Technology is Not Neutral: How Bible Technology Shapes Our Faith. This is definitely worth your listen. Really challenged me to think about the role of technology (computer, mobile phone, tv, etc.) in my life. Technology...

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Good Friday: Death…Awaiting Resurrection

Painting: White Crucifixion by Marc Chagall How often have I lived through these weeks without paying much attention to penance, fasting, and prayer? How often have I missed the spiritual fruits of the season without even being aware of it? But how can I ever really...

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Jesse Phillips: What Are You Passionate About?

(Usually this series posts on Friday, but because of Easter weekend, I have posted early for tomorrow's reflection) I first had the opportunity to meet Jesse Phillips this last January when he was in town for the Innovation3 Gathering in Dallas. He, Scott McClellan...

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“How am I going to do this?”

This is a guest post by Justin Wise at BeDeviant.com. As the leader of a growing and ever-changing ministry, Immersion (we attract mostly 20- and 30-somethings), the challenges of "tending the flock" (a highly mobile flock, at that) and finding out what's going on in...

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Have We Lost Our Ability to Think Abstractly?

Have you lost your ability to think abstractly? That's a question I have been asking myself lately, and then I came across this quote and started thinking about it even more. While that reasoning appears sound, Hipps cites research that demonstrates television's...

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NO TV: 36 Days and Counting

My wife and I have been talking for months about whether or not we should get rid of our TV. And it's a slow process. It first began by reducing from two DVR's to one. Then it continued with cutting all of our cable but the bare minimum/basics so we can keep the one...

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Dawn Carter: What Are You Passionate About?

Who is Dawn Carter? I met Dawn online about a year and a half ago, and we soon found out that some students that I had in in the college ministry I pastored in Los Angeles, she had had in her youth group. That was our connecting point, and from there we have had the...

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Why I Love & Use Logos Bible Software…

As I continue to use and get more acquainted with Logos Bible Software, I will post and bring some of these things to your attention, as I hope you too may find them useful. I'm currently using the Scholar's Library and I'm amazed at how convenient and fast it has...

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Identity & Relationality

"The Quaker teacher Douglas Steere was fond of saying that the ancient human question 'Who am I?' leads inevitably to the equally important question, 'Whose am I?'--for there is no selfhood outside of relationship. We must ask the question of selfhood and answer it as...

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Identity in Weakness

This post is an ongoing reflection on the book Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation by Parker Palmer. "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about...

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Exploring Virtual/Online Church

LifeChurch.tv Second Life Campus Tour Douglas: Is the virtual church a real/genuine church? Andrew Absolutely not. But neither is a physical gathering in a church building on a Sunday morning. The body of Christ is a spiritual aggregation of believers whose names are...

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Paradigm Shifting, Life Shaping Books

It seems we all like books. And we especially like making lists of books. In 2005 I wrote The Five Books I Would Recommend to a College Student...or Actually, to Anyone!, and listed in another post the Top 100 Religious Books of the 20th Century According to...

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Limits and Potential: Living Free Within That Tension

"Everything in the universe has a nature, which means limits as well as potentials, a truth well known by people who work daily with the things of the world. Making pottery, for example, involves more than telling the clay what to become. The clay presses back on the...

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Wess Daniels: What Are You Passionate About?

Who Is Wess Daniels? That's hard for me to sum up in just a few words because Wess does a lot of different things, and he does them really well. He's one of the more eclectic friends (loves technology, but also obsessed with vinyl records as of late) I have, and he's...

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ReThinking How We Do Conferences

A couple of months ago I started a series called ChurchTechCamp-8 Things To Know If You Want to Help Organize One. You can see my last post, with the previous posts at the bottom. I actually did have 8 posts within me, but got distracted which is easy for me to do. I...

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Reclaimining Our “Birthright Gifts”

"We arrive in this world with birthright gifts--then we spend the first half of our lives abandoning them or letting other disabuse us of them. As young people, we are surrounded by expectations that may have little to do with who we really are, expectations held by...

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First Kindle…And now Logos!

Moving from Hardcopy to Digital I first shared with you my excitement after getting the Kindle after Father's Day of 2008. For someone who loves books, lots of them, it was a huge step. Leading up to that I had been weaning my library down (from about 3-4 thousand...

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In Violation of our True Self

I have been returning time and time again to one of my favorite books on the topic of identity and vocation, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation by Parker Palmer. I first read the book in 2002 when I was finishing up my M. Div. at Fuller...

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Matt Knisely: What Are You Passionate About?

Who Is Matt Knisely? I first met Matt at ChurchTechCamp:.Dallas after we had spent some time chatting back and forth via Twitter, later getting the chance to connect again at TrainFriday, and then just a few weeks ago we had the opportunity to reconnect in Dallas and...

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Emerging Into Our Identity

Emerging Adulthood I have always seemed to work with a lot of people in the midst of that life transition from college to young adult, or to what is often referred to as emerging adulthood.  So because of the extension of adolescence, and the pushing of adulthood and...

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Explaining Twitter…And Laughing While We Do It

Over the weekend my wife and I spent about an hour or so explaining Twitter to a couple of our friends. He is a youth minister and I was explaining not only what Twitter was, but how it might be beneficial to his ministry. The "this seems crazy" or "I'm totally out of...

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Tony Steward: What Are You Passionate About?

What Are You Passionate About? I like all the creative things that different bloggers are doing online to help us connect and get to know others in the online community. I love Rick Smith's "double popped" interviews and John Saddington's chats or Friday 5's, as well...

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Helping Your Staff Transition Through Life Stages

When I took my first full-time church job I was as 27 year old single college director. When I resigned I was a 33 year old husband and father of a baby girl. I had no idea what that stage or life transition would look like, and it was a tough one to make in ministry....

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Do You Have A Feedback Loop When You Speak/Preach?

I hate being captive in an audience when the people on stage don’t have a feedback loop going with the audience. We’re used to living a two-way life online and expect it when in an audience too. Our expectations of speakers and people on stage have changed, for better...

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Step Into Your Anxiety If You Want To Grow

Recently I have been listening to the audio version of the David Snarch's book Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Emotionally-Committed Relationships. One of the things that he says in the lecture is (and I'm restating in my own words): That in order for...

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Running & Participating in the Christian Life

I absolutely love Eugene Peterson. Few theologians have the combination of brilliant insight and great writing skills like him. In his book, Eat This Book: A Conversation in the Art of Spiritual Reading there is a beautiful passage in there about running. As some of...

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What Keeps You Centered?

What keeps you centered? This is a question that I have been thinking about a lot.  And it's a question that I ask a lot of my clients, and my friends. If centered is not the right word for you, how about: grounded, balanced, focused. Anxiety is one of the biggest...

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Why I Disconnected Twitter from Facebook

it's official..i have disabled Twitter from my Facebook group..2 very different groups..I wrestled with this for months, but now i did it--12:19 AM Feb 12th from web In the grand scheme of life this decision is about as unimportant as the come...really, it is. But...

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Depression, Burnout & Ministry: Showing Hospitality

This is my 8th and final post in my series on Depression, Burnout & Ministry. There are lots of things I wish I would have written about in this series, and lots more that has been left unsaid. Hopefully this will be an ongoing topic because it is an issue that is...

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Innovation3 Gathering: Incarnational Reality

incarnation: the act of embodying or state of being embodied in human form I have been thinking about that word quite a bit in recent months as I have come "face to face" with more and more of my online friends on Facebook, Twitter and blog. In fact, if you have read...

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Depression, Burnout & Ministry: Assessment

Assessing Depression This is the 4th post in my series on Depression, Burnout & Ministry, and it is the one where I hope to provide some critieria of symptoms that might help us out if we are wondering about this issue. There are a variety of factors and tools...

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Leadership Network: Innovation3 Gathering

On Tuesday and Wednesday of this week I will be one of several live bloggers for the Innovation3 Gathering in Dallas, TX.  What is Innovation3? Innovation3 is a two day gathering of church leaders and innovators for the purpose of connecting, networking, and...

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Changes on the horizon…

Lots of exciting things happening around here and you will slowly see me rollout and discuss what those things are over the next week. But let me just give you a taste of what to expect. First, I've gotten some good feedback on the post, 5 Things I Want To Do In The...

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Neil Postman, Technology & The Church

I have really been enjoying reading John Dyer's blog, Don't Eat the Fruit. John is currently in the middle of a 5 post series "exploring Neil Postman's lecture 'Five Things You Need to Know about Technological Change' as it relates to church life and spirituality."...

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#churchtechcamp:.Dallas is Here!

#churchtechcamp, which was pretty much hinted at, discussed and organized within about 5 minutes on Twitter a few weeks ago, is finally coming to fruition. And instead of Los Angeles, this time it's going to be in Dallas. When: Thursday, January 8 Where: Irving Bible...

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Innovation3=Connect-Network-Collaborate

Connect, Network and Collaborate are just three of the things that I hope to do at the Innovation3 Gathering in Dallas, TX on January 27-28. The event is put on by Leadership Network and is host to a plethora of speakers in just two days. Leadership Network says this...

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Social Media: If It’s Only Tools, Then to What End?

Social Media as a Tool If you look up social media on Wikipedia this is the first sentence you read. Social media are primarily Internet- and mobile-based tools for sharing and discussing information among human beings. So inherent in the discussion (at least here and...

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Help Human3rror Meet His Mother

One of my favorite online friendships is with John Saddington. We have just recently gotten to know each other via email, chat, Twitter, etc. His online humor always makes me laugh and I have found him to be a very giving, and appreciative person. So...you should help...

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An Interview with Church Crunch

An Interview with Church Crunch

Church Crunch has definitely become one of my favorite sites. I check it out several times a day and am always learning, being challenged and growing in many areas, but especially their thoughts on technology and the Church. John Saddington (you must start reading his...

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How Do You Say No To Good Things?

I came across this Tweet from Anne Jackson today, and it resonated with me a lot. Learning to say no to good things. It's always hard, but it's necessary. I've been losing focus lately. I know we all have lots of good things on our plate. We have lots of great...

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10 Blog Sites That Must Be A Part of Your Reading….

Below is a list of 10 blog sites that I highly recommend. It's about time I recognize just some of the sites that have given so much to me. When I read any of these 10 sites I am continually challenged, stimulated in my thinking, and pushed in a direction of valuable...

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Leveraging Technology in Your Community

Two of my passions are technology and community--especially, how technology can be used to create and sustain community, and how it can be used to open up communication. So I'm real excited that Cynthia Ware has a great, great post/presentation on Leveraging...

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Saving Christians…

Interesting article in Relevant Magazine with Rob Bell on Saving Christians. Here is an excerpt: In the intro of your new book, Jesus Wants To Save Christians, you describe the specific theology you are trying to articulate as a New Exodus perspective. How is this...

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Becoming A Heretic on Church Ministry: The Sermon

Becoming A Heretic on Church Ministry: The Sermon

The Context Last week I posted a blog, Becoming A Heretic on Church Ministry. I was playing off what Seth Godin says in his new book Tribes: We Need You To Lead Us. You can find my review of the book at Leadership Network. Godin says: Challenging the status quo...

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My Social Media Addiction Update!

Curbing My Addiction About two weeks ago I wrote the post, You Might Be A Social Media Addict If......Setting Boundaries On Social Media. In that post I proposed the 10 things that I was going to try to help curb my addiction. Two weeks is hardly an experiment, but I...

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Becoming a Heretic on Church Ministry

Becoming a Heretic on Church Ministry

Heretic Heretic, the one word that you never want to be associated with you as a Christian or ministry worker. OR IS IT? Rather, maybe we need more heretics. Those challenging the status quo in Church. Just maybe we need to think more unorthodox thoughts when it comes...

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Our Consumptionist Hunger Has Finally Turned In On Us

Betrayed By Our Consumption I've been thinking about the current economic crisis a lot recently. For the most part of my life I have not followed, or cared too much about business or economic news. For all I knew is that I lived in America and that we were prosperous...

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“Technology as a Powerful Practice”

“Technology as a Powerful Practice”

I believe technology to be a very powerful and important tool for the Church, but as Christians we must also be careful of how and what we embrace in regards to technology. That in the process we don't become slaves to its means, but rather that we use technology as a...

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From 6 Degrees to 3 Degrees of Separation

I'm late to this article, but about a month ago TechCrunch had a great post, Six Degrees of Separation is Now Three. Couple of things stuck out to me in the article: According to the study, the average person is now connected by just three degrees within a shared...

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Fight Club and 8 Rules for Innovation

One of my favorite movies of all time is Fight Club. It's one of those movies that resonates with so many people on so many different levels. Though in the end, Fight Club proves to be nihilistic, a very different view then I hold as a Christian, it was an amazing...

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Getting Outside Our Villages

I said something earlier this week about my appreciation for GodblogCon and their attempt to be more "missionally minded." I know that when they brought the conference to Vegas from the campus of Biola not everyone was happy about it. In fact, I think many decided not...

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Technology and the Future of the Church

There are a lot of amazing things happening in the world of ministry and technology. So much so that it's hard to keep up with all of it. Some churches are on the leading edge of innovation, while others are still trying to get a website put together. Wherever you...

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Blogworld and New Media Expo & GodblogCon

This last weekend was a great time at Blogworld and New Media Expo, and GodblogCon. It was my fourth year at GodblogCon, and my 2nd time at Blogworld. I have some thoughts about the conference and I will be posting them this week, but just a sampler of some things...

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Cool, but Surreal

I walked into the convention center today and saw this sign sitting at the front of the bookstore next to our book. Very cool, but pretty surreal seeing it next to books by Guy Kawasaki, Tim Ferriss, etc. Especially since I only have a chapter in the book, and it's...

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Identity–>Boundaries–>Self Care

I've had a lot on my mind recently, and during that time I've been pretty convicted about several issues that I see interrelated. It originally arose because of my dismay at the real lack of boundaries in ministry and what affect that has on those caught up in that...

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Taking Risks…..

Saw this gem in The Dallas Morning News this morning. It's a quote by Alexander Muse who I have been following on Twitter. "In Silicon Valley, it's normal to quit your job and work at a start-up," he said. But in Dallas, he sees many entrepreneurs "keeping their...

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Free Book Opportunity….The New Media Frontier

Everyone loves free stuff- so how about a free copy of The New Media Frontier, edited by John Mark Reynolds and Roger Overton. Crossway  will be sending a free copy of the book to the first 30 people who agree to review on their blog or Facebook page. Here are the...

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Is (Your) Church in “the dead zone of slick?”

The below is an excerpt from Seth Godin's post the dead zone of slick. There was a terrific duo playing live music at the farmer's market the other day. They were well-rehearsed, enthusiastic and really good. Being a patron of the arts, I bought a CD. I hated it. I've...

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Your Daily Workflow and Social Media Tools

Your Daily Workflow and Social Media Tools

Does that chart scare you? It scared me the first time I saw it.  I was given a copy of Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity. And well, the book and method were hardly stress free for me, while others thrived on it. Many of you out there are...

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ECHO Conference: Great from top to bottom

Last week I was debating on whether or not I should attend the ECHO Conference, mainly because I was pretty exhausted from just moving here. And second, I wasn't quite sure if I wanted to pay the $329 for the conference. I debated, but ultimately I felt like it would...

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Couple of Great Conferences…

I will be heading over to ECHO Conference  (if not tonight, at least tomorrow and Saturday) at Watermark, and I'm super excited to hang out with Cynthia Ware, Scott McClellan, Tony Steward, Greg Atkinson and others.  I'm sure my head will be exploding with ideas and...

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Andrew Jones (aka Tall Skinny Kiwi) interview

I had the privilege yesterday of interviewing Andrew Jones along with Andrew Jackson, Cynthia Ware, Matthew Anderson and Marcus Goodyear. Jones has some great insight into the history of blogging (he's been blogging since 1997/1998) and ministry. Some really good...

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The Ego Driven “Christian Cult of Success”

Parker Palmer is the author of one of my favorite books, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation. If you have not read it, then you need to stop what you are doing and get in your car and go pick it up. Or stop what you are doing and order it online....

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Texting the VP Announcement…Brilliant!

Politics aside, someone in Barack Obama's campaign clearly understands viral marketing, social media, and the "groundswell." And his campaign has just figured out a way to reach an audience and communicate a message to that I think McCain clearly doesn't understand or...

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Bill Mahrer’s New Movie, “Religulous”

Saw this over at Anne Jackson's blog today. I don't get too fired up when people make movies, or write books disputing what I believe...even in an inconsiderate and mocking way. I'm actually pretty curious. I agree with this commenter at Anne's blog: Brian Baute said,...

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The Sexualization of our Children

  Now that I'm a parent I am obviously thinking about the issue more, especially since I have a baby girl. It's amazing to me how early little girls are being sexualized in advertising and culture. Here is the book mentioned in the interview: So Sexy So Soon: The New...

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Making Alltop’s “Modern Church” Category

It was with great surprise and joy that I found myself on Alltop this week. They have created a new category, Modern Church, and I somehow ended up on a list with some of my favorite bloggers. Alltop which was founded by Guy Kawasaki has a very unique purpose: We help...

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Tony Morgan has 5 Questions with Seth Godin

Seth Godin is being twittered about quite a bit these days because of his new, soon to be released book, and his invite only network Tribe. Tony Morgan has some questions for Seth (and if you don't read Seth's blog, you should be): TONY: First of all, thanks for being...

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Homosexuality and the Church

Dr. Ray S. Anderson has been blogging as a guest host over at Ben Myers blog. When it comes to the issue of homosexuality, it has been a topic very much on many people's mind (no matter what side you fall on) especially in California (where marriage was legalized...

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To Get, or Not To Get an i-Phone?

Before the new i-phone came out I was drooling at any site of, or rumor of it's impending release. The days leading up to it and on release day I was glued to TechCrunch's Twitter just so I wouldn't miss anything. But now I'm pretty glad I didn't rush out to get one....

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Technology and Humanity

I love this quote by Daniel Kantor over at Collide Magazine in the article How Expensive Technology Can Cheapen Us. I think when the technology becomes not only the focal point but the prerequisite, we’ve cheapened not only the art, but our humanity. I’m not against...

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POST: Re-Structuring and Moving Collective Muse

We define the four-step POST process for creating strategies--people, objectives, strategy, and technology--and reveal why starting with the technologies is a mistake. That is the advice I wish I would have read 6 months ago as I was thinking about creating the...

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Following Donald Miller…

Donald Miller is by far one of my favorite authors. Blue Like Jazz changed my thinking radically, and what I want in a good book. You can read here about the night we had him out to speak to our college ministry. Recently I have been following him on Twitter and am...

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25 Twitter Tips for College Students

About a month ago I wrote a post Formulating an Online Strategy for College Ministry: Part 5--How Twitter Can Catalyze Your Ministry. I was really only focusing on one way college students (ministry) can use Twitter. How about 25 ways? Howard Rheingold had a link on...

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Hiring for Ministry and “Success”

I've long wondered about how to know who to hire in ministry, or why I got hired for some positions. Some people have lots of credentials, experience, etc., and don't pan out in terms of what they were hired for. Others lack those things and go on to do a great job....

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Mysogynistic and Violent Christianity?

My friend Wess has a great post on the recent issue of the satire magazine, Wittenberg Door. The magazine takes a look at Mark Driscoll and what are his....well, let's let Wess state it since he puts it much more eloquently. Most of you know about Mark Driscoll, he’s...

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Women in Ministry: Lip Service or Reality?

This last week I have been video streaming, reading blogs and following Twitters about the PC(USA)-218th General Assembly in San Jose, CA. If you are involved with the denomination then it can be somewhat interesting...at times. Otherwise, it can be quite tedious....

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The Making of the Postmodern Family

My great friend and former co-worker RO Smith always "complements" me for being a co-nurterer of my daughter along with my wife. RO will make comments about us as a typical "postmodern family", defying traditional and stereotypical role playing of the sexes in our...

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Kudos to N.T. Wright for Going on The Colbert Report

I came across this over at Wess' blog. Great stuff. I can't imagine going on The Colbert Report and actually trying to get a serious word in. New Testament scholar and Anglican Bishop N.T. Wright does a a good job with Colbert. At least he has a sense of humor,...

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My new Amazon Kindle

Okay, so this isn't a professional presentation by any means.  But just wanted to give you a look in less than 90 seconds at the Amazon Kindle I got for Father's Day. And what I can't convey by video, just let me say it's amazing.  It looks like I'm reading a real...

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Inventing the Internet…

Vanity Fair magazine has a good story on the invention of the internet, Inventing the Internet, An Oral History. You have to buy the magazine to get the full-version, but browse through the online article to get a snapshot of some of the key figures past and present.

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Thanks Bel Air for a Great 7 Years…

It was about six months ago when I announced my resignation to the staff and students at Bel Air Presbyterian Church and The Quest, and now the day has finally arrived. I'm sitting at my desk for the last time as the college director and it's a bittersweet feeling....

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Good Deal on Books…

Good Deal on Books…

So I don't need anymore books at this point in my life, but I have a store credit of $352 at one of the best new and used Christian book stores around. If you are looking for really great theological books, then Archives in Pasadena, CA is the place for you. And if...

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The Changing Seminary–The Changing Pastor

Scott McClellan of Collide Magazine has an excerpt of an interview/article with Craig Detweiler on the the state of seminary, Culture and Seminary. In what I read so far, Craig brings up some interesting points. COLLIDE: It seems to me that the majority of seminaries...

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Social Networking Pet Peeves and Annoyances

I know we all have our pet peeves when it comes to social networking sites and technology, so I thought you would enjoy this article, The Top 10 Social Networking Annoyances. Here are the 10 they talk about: MySpace kitsch The worms crawl in LinkedIn is up tight...

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Downward Mobility is not Cool

The way of the Christian leader is not the way of upward mobility in which our world has invested so much, but the way of downward mobility ending on the cross. Henri Nouwen, In The Name of Jesus: Reflections on Christian Leadership, 62. Just yesterday I was in two...

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Responses to a Commenter

Ryan at Tilling the Soil asked me a couple of good questions related to my post below, so I want to give them proper attention in a post, and not just leave a comment for him. I had the chance to talk with Ryan by phone last week and I enjoyed our conversation, and...

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The Things That We Yearn For…

It's funny how some words become commonplace in a community or culture.  As a resident of Los Angeles you hear a lot of talk about "sex" and "sushi."  It seems that these are two things that Angelenos highly esteem.  So when I came across the book, "Sex, Sushi &...

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College Ministry & The Ascent Network

One of the most important college ministry conferences is happening May 16-19 up in Seattle at The Inn. The Ascent Conference is a gathering of those involved in college ministry, and it has been real influential in shaping college ministry under the leadership of...

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Twitter: News Before It Becomes News

A little over a week ago I was having coffee and talking technology and ministry with Cynthia Ware of The Digital Sanctuary. And she told me a story about some friends of hers and how they had received information from Twitter regarding some events that later became...

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Unrealistic Expectations?

My co-worker RO Smith and I have been talking a lot recently about expectations in the Church. RO has been concerned with what are some unrealistic expectations placed upon pastors which he wrote about in the post, We Are All Pastors. After reading the post and...

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