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Anxiety, Fear and Grief: Parent Equipping Panel

Anxiety, Fear and Grief: Parent Equipping Panel

I have had the privilege over the last 6-8 weeks to participate in some parenting panels online via Zoom and other technologies. COVID-19 has raised a lot of concern for people and the topic of anxiety and grief seem to be the two most common topics that I have been...

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Rhett Smith 131: Encouragement in Your Anxiety

Rhett Smith 131: Encouragement in Your Anxiety

Part of being human is that we get anxious. And no human can opt out of experiencing anxiety. It visits all of us at varying times in our lives, and to varying degrees. But what if you can reframe anxiety in a way that you see it as a friend, rather than a foe. What...

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Encouragement in Your Anxiety

Encouragement in Your Anxiety

Part of being human is that we get anxious. And no human can opt out of experiencing anxiety. It visits all of us at varying times in our lives, and to varying degrees. But what if you can reframe anxiety in a way that you see it as a friend, rather than a foe. What...

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“Trimming the Sails”

“Trimming the Sails”

In this interview, Todd Sandel, the CEO and founder of The SouthCity Group, and I discuss the importance of identifying what is most important for yourself, your relationships, and organizations -- during this time of uncertainty due to COVID-19.

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Leadership in the Age of Anxiety

Leadership in the Age of Anxiety

It's all quiet in my house. As it probably should. It's 12:30am and the kids have been asleep for a few hours. Which is a challenge right now amidst COVID-19. Every day since the beginning of Spring Break has felt like a vacation to them, and it continues to feel that...

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Rhett Smith 119: Dust and Identity

Rhett Smith 119: Dust and Identity

"for dust you are and to dust you will return.” (Genesis 3:19) In this episode I reflect on the passage found in Genesis 3:19 that is repeated every Ash Wednesday. It's a beautiful, but harrowing passage that reminds us of just how fragile and short our lives are. But...

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Rhett Smith 89: Lent, Trauma, and Remembering

Rhett Smith 89: Lent, Trauma, and Remembering

I have been thinking a lot about the Lent season, which is appropriate since Ash Wednesday was yesterday. Here is what I posted on Facebook last night: Over the next 40+ days I am going to take some time to reflect on some of the things I am exploring around Lent,...

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Book Reading in 2016

Book Reading in 2016

So I took a totally opposite approach to book reading in 2016 than I have in years past, and I'm going to take it into 2017 as well. And in 2017 I plan on re-reading a lot more of the authors and books that I love. In the past 17 years I have primarily read theology,...

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Reframing Your Anxiety and Depression

Reframing Your Anxiety and Depression

A couple of months ago I had the opportunity to give a talk about my own journey with anxiety and depression at a local church, Chase Oaks Church. The video was shot for their ReNew Ministry which helps people deal with the "messiness of life." I love the work that...

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Rhett Smith Podcast 63: The Practice of Sabbath

Rhett Smith Podcast 63: The Practice of Sabbath

I've been talking about Sabbath in the last couple of podcast episodes (Episode 61: Sabbath Rest and Your Identity, Episode 62: Sabbath Rest and Anxiety), and so I close the series in this episode talking about various practices. As I've come to learn more about...

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Rhett Smith Podcast 62: Sabbath Rest and Anxiety

Rhett Smith Podcast 62: Sabbath Rest and Anxiety

As I mentioned in my podcast last week (Sabbath Rest and Identity), I have been thinking a lot about the topic of Sabbath over the course of the last year. It seems that it comes up in more and more of my conversations, and it's absence in the lives of many people...

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Rhett Smith Podcast 55: Pioneering the Work of Restoration Therapy to Transform Relationships — with founder of Restoration Therapy, Author, and Fuller Theological Seminary Professor, Terry Hargrave

Rhett Smith Podcast 55: Pioneering the Work of Restoration Therapy to Transform Relationships — with founder of Restoration Therapy, Author, and Fuller Theological Seminary Professor, Terry Hargrave

I have told this story countless times in person, on the podcast, and in my blog...so I will try and keep it brief. But about 6 years ago I had an experience that forever changed my life. I had just returned from sitting in on and observing a marriage intensive at The...

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Rhett Smith Podcast 23: The Over-Scheduling of Kid’s Lives, the One Activity, Per Kid, Per Grading Period, and the Importance of Cultivating a Listening Relationship with Your Kids Early On — with Psychologist Dr. Neil Stafford

Rhett Smith Podcast 23: The Over-Scheduling of Kid’s Lives, the One Activity, Per Kid, Per Grading Period, and the Importance of Cultivating a Listening Relationship with Your Kids Early On — with Psychologist Dr. Neil Stafford

I know it's a cliche and commonplace to say that you are "busy" when someone asks how you are doing. I find myself saying that a lot, and more recently I've tried to correct that by questioning why am I so busy? And do I like being busy and do I get something from it?...

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The Launching of Thriiive Practices

The Launching of Thriiive Practices

This summer my family and I spent 8 days with a couple of other families in Colorado. It was an amazing time of adventure and community as we spent our days white water river rafting, ropes courses, hiking, trail running, and spending quality time with one another....

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Rhett Smith Podcast 10: Are You Living a Good Story? How Comfort, Anxiety and the American Dream Can Keep Us From Living a Compelling Life — with Author, Storyteller, and Communications Pastor, Scott McClellan

Rhett Smith Podcast 10: Are You Living a Good Story? How Comfort, Anxiety and the American Dream Can Keep Us From Living a Compelling Life — with Author, Storyteller, and Communications Pastor, Scott McClellan

In the Summer of 2008 I was sitting in my inlaw's home office working on their computer. My wife, 1 year old daughter and I had just moved from Los Angeles to Dallas to live a more compelling story, but we knew very few people except for some family we had in the DFW...

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Rhett Smith Podcast 8: Parenting in an Online World, Creating Sacred Spaces, and Navigating Cyberbullying and Pornography Among Youth — with Youth Cartel Co-Founder, Speaker, and Technologist, Adam McLane

Rhett Smith Podcast 8: Parenting in an Online World, Creating Sacred Spaces, and Navigating Cyberbullying and Pornography Among Youth — with Youth Cartel Co-Founder, Speaker, and Technologist, Adam McLane

I first got to connect with Adam McLane when we were driving through the Dominican Republic, and across the border into Haiti. It was only about a month after the devastating earthquake that hit Haiti, and we were part of a youth ministry team that went down there...

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Rhett Smith Podcast 7: The Journey of Forgiveness

Rhett Smith Podcast 7: The Journey of Forgiveness

One of the issues that almost always comes up in my work with clients is the issue of forgiveness. It is the issue that often is not addressed, but the one that is most needed. So a few months ago when a pastor friend of mine asked me to come speak at his church's...

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Opening a Second Office Location in Frisco!!!

Opening a Second Office Location in Frisco!!!

Starting Monday, November 10, I will be practicing in both Plano and Frisco. Over the last several years my practice has experienced incredible growth, especially from people coming down to Plano from Frisco, Prosper, McKinney and Allen. In order to better accommodate...

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Redefining Masculinity Around Relationships

Redefining Masculinity Around Relationships

Last month I wrote a blog and shot a video called Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy. The two words I was referring to are "stop crying." It's a message that is devastating to boys and leads to lots of other problems for them in the future. Problems that I see...

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‘Oneness’: When Two Become Three

‘Oneness’: When Two Become Three

I've been thinking a lot about marriage these last few weeks for several reasons. Whether it is with the couples I work with, or my own personal marriage...I have come to realize that we just can't do marriage on our own. We can throw all the tools at it we want, but...

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Men: Are You a Relational Hero?

Men: Are You a Relational Hero?

"Each man is a bridge, spanning in his lifetime all of the images and traditions about masculinity inherited from past generations and bestowing--or inflicting--his own retelling of the tale on those who ensue. Unresolved depression often passes from father to son,...

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Difference Between Studying and Reading the Bible

Difference Between Studying and Reading the Bible

When I work with people in therapy we often talk about the importance of being physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy. And one of the primary ways that many people who foster their spiritual growth is through their participation in the Bible. That...

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Do You and Your Spouse Need a Marriage Intensive?

Do You and Your Spouse Need a Marriage Intensive?

I wish couples would go to counseling on a regular basis as a part of their commitment to being intentional in their marriage. I wish couples would go when their marriage was in a good spot, so that they can take it to an even greater spot. But the reality is, in my...

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Leadership and Relationships: Creating Safety

Leadership and Relationships: Creating Safety

"Weak leaders are the ones who only extend the benefits of the Circle of Safety to their fellow senior executives and a chosen few others. They look out for each other, but they do not offer the same considerations to those outside their 'inner circle.' Without the...

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Exclusion as a Violation of the Self

Exclusion as a Violation of the Self

Last week I came across this article that stated, being ignored is worse than being bullied. I had to stop and think about that statement for a second. Nevermind the article and the research, I wanted to just think about that statement, especially since we hear so...

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“Ruthlessly Eliminate Hurry”

“Ruthlessly Eliminate Hurry”

Not long after moving to Chicago, I called a wise friend to ask for some spiritual direction. I described the pace of life in my current ministry. The church where I serve tends to move at a fast clip. I also told him about our rhythms of family life: we are in the...

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Running as an Antidote for Anxiety and Depression

Running as an Antidote for Anxiety and Depression

I love running! It has completely changed my life. I have loved running since I was a little kid. I loved running and playing with friends. I loved field day and running the sprints and the longer races. I ran track in high school. But somewhere along the way running...

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“What’s the Difference Between Anxiety and Worry?”

“What’s the Difference Between Anxiety and Worry?”

"What's the difference between anxiety and worry?" That was the question posed to me the other day. It's such a great question, and honestly, I don't know if anyone has ever asked me that question before, which is sort of surprising in light of all the talk on worry...

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