“Roll away your stone, I’ll roll away mine
Together we can see what we will find.”

I have had this lyric from Mumford and Sons playing around in my head for the last couple of months. Probably because those two lines remind me a lot of the concept of boundaries and differentiation in relationships (i.e. learning where you begin and end in relationship with someone else and the boundaries around that). Or another way to say it is what you are and aren’t responsible for in a relationship.

The Apostle Paul in the book of Galatians writes, Galatians 6:2: “Bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ….Galatians 6:5: For each one will bear his own load.”

Everyone has responsibilities that only he or she can carry. These things are our own particular ‘load’ that we need to take daily responsibility for and work out. No one can do certain things for us. We have to take ownership of certain aspects of life that are our own ‘load.’ (Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life, by Henry Cloud and John Townsend, pp. 30.)

Are you carrying someone else’s responsibility that should be theirs? Or have you dumped your responsibility off on someone else for them to bear?