“Thanks to a series of influential research studies, the things people who succeed in intimate relationships do differently from those who fail have been discovered by researchers. One of the most important differences involves how people react when they feel upset. All partners in long term relationships feel upset with each other at various times. Evidence suggests that some people know how to handle such moments in ways that cultivate respectfulness and receptivity in their partners. Others react in ways that make it almost impossible for their partners to genuinely care. Studies suggest that the ability to react effectively when feeling upset is not optional–it’s a must for anyone who hopes to have a satisfying intimate relationship.”

Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy for CouplesBrent Atkinson at GoodTherapy.org