I just want to acknowledge that there were and are many angles that I could have gone yesterday in my post Showing Skin at Church.
I knew this going into the post, writing the post, and at the conclusion. And it was even more evident when I received lots of feedback from a lot of you, most of it not in the comment section, but via email, Facebook chat, etc. All good thoughts.
I could have addressed the issue of men more, and the responsibility they have in this issue.
I could have gone deeper on the issue of why modesty is important.
I could have talked about the disposition of our hearts, and how that can be a guide to what modesty looks like in our lives.
I could have tried to offer guidelines. That gets messy quickly.
I could have talked about the nuances of dress, and how what might be modest in some cultures, is or isn’t in others.
So you see…lots of angles, lots of positions…lots of places to go.
And though none of my commenters or friends talked to me about this, I do want to be clear about something: This is not just an issue that we are to put on women, or blame them. That would be like Adam blaming Eve for eating the apple, taking no responsibility for himself. There is a vicious cycle at work here, and I think we all contribute to it to some degree. So the best thing we can do is to come together as communities and be open and honest about it, and the struggles that proceed. And we can be of encouragement to each other.
My friend Wess has a great post where he delves deeper into the heart of the issue: On Immodesty: Too Much Skin (At Church and Elsewhere)?
Also, I’m sure Anne Jackson could have taken her post in many different directions as well, but was speaking out of her heart based on certain circumstances, etc. She continues to raise great questions in her writings.
When we think of the issue of modesty, or showing skin, in church or elsewhere….What are some angles or points of discussion that you would like to see raised?
As a woman, do you feel like the Church blames you, or puts the focus on you most of the time for this issue?
Or what questions do you have in your mind that you would like to see answered or at least wrestled with? One friend was asking me if there are appropriate times, places and contexts for women to dress sexy? So you see, there are a million rabbit trails we can go down, and I’m no expert. So let me hear from all of you.