Tags archives: Terry Hargrave
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on April 22, 2018
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The Depression Equation
I am a big believer in the equation that insight + practice = transformation. In fact, in an earlier post on anxiety I shared the same equation, highlighting Angela Duckworth's work on the concept of deliberate practice in her work. In her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, she writes the following:
"Deliberate practice is a behavior, and flow is an[...]
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on April 22, 2018
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Reframing Depression
"What if this depression you are experiencing is helping inform you about your life? What if we listen to it together, it may give us some clues about what is going on with your life. Maybe it will give us some direction about what kind of changes we need to make."
If you were sitting in session with me listening to someone share about their depression, you would hea[...]
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on April 22, 2018
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What Is Underneath Depression
Like anxiety, one of the most difficult aspects of depression is trying to figure out what are the underlying roots of it. But without properly identifying its underlying roots it's possible that one may see depression simply as a feeling, rather than as a symptom of some deeper feeling. And if you don't identify this underlying feeling you will find yourself c[...]
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on February 27, 2018
- When I encourage people to look for opportunities to practice their anxiety, I am often given a blank stare in return. It almost sounds crazy to ask someone to practice something that is already at times, making them feel like they are crazy. But perhaps a better way to say it is, that I am about the process of helping people look for opportunities to place themselves in the midst of their anxiety[...]
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on February 27, 2018
- "Deliberate practice is a behavior, and flow is an experience."
Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth
When I was 21 years old and sitting alone in my college apartment, full of anxiety, but knowing my life needed to change, I had some inkling that they only way through the anxious feelings was to put myself in situations to practice working through it. I've shared the s[...]
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on February 15, 2018
- In October of 2016 I spoke at the first ever Restoration Therapy Summit on the topic of anxiety and fear in the Restoration Therapy model, and more specifically, trying to differentiate between what exactly is anxiety, and what is fear. I even recorded a Part 1 and Part 2 podcast episodes on this topic after I spoke.
When Dr. Terry Hargrave first asked me to speak on this topic I didn't think t[...]
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on December 14, 2017
- Working with Anxious Clients
There are a lot of ways that one can work with anxious people, but I have found over the years a very helpful process that I would like to share with you. With any process it's best that you make it your own and use what is helpful to you, and discard what is not. Also, processes have a way of not always moving in a linear direction, so what I have to share with you m[...]
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on December 14, 2017
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The Anxiety Equation
In an earlier post I wrote about a very powerful and transformative therapy experience I had back in 2010. It was one of those therapy sessions where insight was enough to create change. Or at least I should say, the insight alone was enough to create some initial change, but it led me down a path that required a lot of work and practice. For the most part I have develope[...]
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on December 14, 2017
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Reframing The Meaning of Anxiety in the Bible
"I am here, in your office to see you because I didn't feel like there was anyone else I could talk to about my anxiety."
I hear some form of this statement quite often in my office. And it most frequently comes from someone who is a Christian, who feels like it is emotionally unsafe to talk about their anxiety in the context of their church [...]
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on December 14, 2017
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Anxiety Changed My Life
Back in 2011 when I was doing some reading and research for my book The Anxious Christian, I came across a sentence in Rollo May's book, The Meaning of Anxiety that really resonated with what I was thinking about in regards to anxiety. In that book he writes the following:
“The healthy individual moves ahead despite the conflict, actualizing his freedom, whereas the[...]
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on December 14, 2017
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What Is Underneath the Anxiety
One of the most difficult things about anxiety is trying to define its roots. In an earlier post I wrote about the challenge of trying to define it, but in this post I want to explore more in depth what the underlying roots are that trigger anxiety. You may remember that in that earlier post I talked about how anxiety is not a feeling or an emotion, but rather a[...]
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on December 14, 2017
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Anxiety in the Headlines
Anxiety is a hot topic these days. I am not saying that it has ever gone out of style, but it seems that anxiety has been increasing at record numbers in our culture and one can hardly look at the news without seeing article after article proclaiming the findings of some new study.
There was the big New York Time Magazine piece back in October of 2017 that garnere[...]
