by Rhett Smith | Jul 11, 2016 | Parenting, Podcast
I first heard of Anne Marie Miller when she was actually Anne Jackson, and she was blogging under the name Flowerdust. This was probably around 2006/2007 or so (maybe earlier), and she had a very popular blog that talked a lot about ministry, leadership, and other...
by Rhett Smith | Oct 13, 2015 | Podcast
I have been looking forward to having Dr. Cameron Jorgenson on my podcast for a long time. Dr. Jorgenson is one of the smartest and most thoughtful people that I know, and so it was with great anticipation that I had him on this week’s episode. But first a...
by Rhett Smith | May 30, 2014 | Marriage
I think David Schnarch’s work on marriage and the concept of differentiation in relationships is life transforming. The idea of differentiation is not his, nor is it new. But his work Passionate Marriage has transformed my life in many ways, and continues to...
by Rhett Smith | Dec 16, 2013 | Marriage
“A sociologist once observed that the prevalence of intimacy themes in mass media, pop psychology, and ‘alternative lifestyles’ suggests that were driven by hunger for intimate union. It may look like this on the surface, but my clinical work helped...
by Rhett Smith | Sep 25, 2013 | Marriage
“There lies within the heart of most human beings a deep longing for close companionship with another–one who like us, yet mysteriously and sometimes maddeningly different from us. That heartfelt urge has been there from the beginning, and most of us feel...
by Rhett Smith | May 3, 2013 | Men
The below TEDx talk was recommended to me by some marriage therapists that I network with. I work with a lot of clients who are struggling with porn or who have a porn addiction. And there is a lot of topics covered in this video. What I find fascinating is the...
by Rhett Smith | Jul 17, 2012 | Men
I have to admit to you all that I knew little about male depression until the last ten years when I started reading more and more writers who were openly talking about it. People like Henri Nouwen, Parker Palmer and Archibald Hart to name but just a few. The more and...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 23, 2011 | Parenting
“Why do we let them dress like that?” All of which brings me to a question: Why do so many of us not only permit our teenage daughters to dress like this—like prostitutes, if we’re being honest with ourselves—but pay for them to do it with our AmEx...
by Rhett Smith | Mar 18, 2011 | Marriage
David Schnarch’s Definition of Love
by Rhett Smith | Feb 1, 2011 | Marriage
“What books do you recommend we read in our premarital counseling?” That has been a question I have been getting a lot of recently. Whether it’s a Facebook message from a friend, an @rhetter comment on Twitter, or some email I receive from someone...
by Rhett Smith | Apr 29, 2009 | Marriage
Well known psychologist David Schnarch has a wonderful book called the Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships. When Schnarch speaks about boundaries he speaks about differentiation. What is differentiation? In short, according...
by Rhett Smith | Feb 23, 2009 | Marriage
Recently I have been listening to the audio version of the David Snarch’s book Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Emotionally-Committed Relationships. One of the things that he says in the lecture is (and I’m restating in my own words): That...