Tags archives: relationships

  • Scary Close: My 4 Part Video Book Review of Donald Miller's New Book

  • Back in the beginning of December, my friend Tyler Davis Jones mailed me a copy of Donald Miller's new book Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy. Tyler picked it up at the Storyline Conference he attended. I was so thankful to get this great gift from him, and I plowed through the book in two days. Scary Close contains all the essential elements that lead to one's personal a[...]
  • A Gift Idea on How to Intentionally Create Presence in Your Marriage

  • One of the things that I became really convicted about in 2014 was my lack of being present. Present to my own life. Present to friends. Present to my kids. Present to my wife. And by present, I mean emotionally engaged and available to people in my life. Instead I found myself distracted by all kinds of things, especially my social media feed. Whether it was Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram, it[...]
  • Redefining Masculinity Around Relationships

  • Last month I wrote a blog and shot a video called Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy. The two words I was referring to are "stop crying." It's a message that is devastating to boys and leads to lots of other problems for them in the future. Problems that I see everyday in my counseling office with the men that I work with. I agree with Terence Real in that we need more relational heroes in [...]
  • Leadership and Relationships: Creating Safety

  • "Weak leaders are the ones who only extend the benefits of the Circle of Safety to their fellow senior executives and a chosen few others. They look out for each other, but they do not offer the same considerations to those outside their 'inner circle.' Without the protection of our leaders, everyone outside the inner circle is forced to work alone or in small tribes to protect and advance their o[...]
  • Healing Our Disconnection

  • "I want to think more about what connecting is and why I believe it is at the center of powerful relationships. If connecting is at the center of healing, then disconnecting must be at the core of what needs healing. In our therapeutic way of thinking, we're more inclined to regard emotional forces, often unconscious, as the culprit behind the problems we face. Psychological dynamics active dee[...]
  • Ever Have Trouble Putting Your Phone Down to be Present With Others?

  • I think we can all can agree that technology is a huge influence in the shaping of our lives and relationships. That's why I'm a huge believer in placing healthy boundaries around our technology. It's something I have been writing about for about 6 years, especially after being heavily influenced by the work of my friend John Dyer in his book, From the Garden to the City: The Redeeming and Corrupt[...]
  • Terry Hargrave on Couple's Therapy and Changing our Brain

  • Four years ago I was presented with an amazing opportunity that changed the way I thought about marriage (my own and the couples I work with), and how I work with couple's in a therapeutic context. I went up to The Hideaway Experience in Amarillo, Texas to observe a 4-Day Marriage intensive. What I was a part of changed my life. In fact, I blogged about that first intensive here. I have a lot more[...]
  • How Your Self-Reactivity Harms Relationships

  • "Somehow, even though we know that certain thoughts and behaviors are bad for us and are rooted in our own self-reactivity [negative patterns of coping], we return to those behaviors and usually find that these actions further assault our identities as human beings and our sense of closeness and safety in relationships. Old ideas die hard." (The Anxious Christian, pp. 93, Rhett Smith -- quotin[...]
  • What Thinking Patterns Fuel Your Anxiety

  • “The average high school kid today has the same level of anxiety as the average psychiatric patient in the early 1950’s.” (Dr. Richard Leahy -- quoted by Mick Ukleja in the article 7 Thinking Patterns That Contribute to Anxiety) Many of you know that I believe anxiety can be a great opportunity and catalyst for growth in our lives -- in fact, I just recorded a short video about this yesterday. [...]
 
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