Tags archives: relationships

  • Redefining Masculinity Around Relationships

  • Last month I wrote a blog and shot a video called Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy. The two words I was referring to are "stop crying." It's a message that is devastating to boys and leads to lots of other problems for them in the future. Problems that I see everyday in my counseling office with the men that I work with. I agree with Terence Real in that we need more relational heroes in [...]
  • Leadership and Relationships: Creating Safety

  • "Weak leaders are the ones who only extend the benefits of the Circle of Safety to their fellow senior executives and a chosen few others. They look out for each other, but they do not offer the same considerations to those outside their 'inner circle.' Without the protection of our leaders, everyone outside the inner circle is forced to work alone or in small tribes to protect and advance their o[...]
  • Healing Our Disconnection

  • "I want to think more about what connecting is and why I believe it is at the center of powerful relationships. If connecting is at the center of healing, then disconnecting must be at the core of what needs healing. In our therapeutic way of thinking, we're more inclined to regard emotional forces, often unconscious, as the culprit behind the problems we face. Psychological dynamics active dee[...]
  • Ever Have Trouble Putting Your Phone Down to be Present With Others?

  • I think we can all can agree that technology is a huge influence in the shaping of our lives and relationships. That's why I'm a huge believer in placing healthy boundaries around our technology. It's something I have been writing about for about 6 years, especially after being heavily influenced by the work of my friend John Dyer in his book, From the Garden to the City: The Redeeming and Corrupt[...]
  • Terry Hargrave on Couple's Therapy and Changing our Brain

  • Four years ago I was presented with an amazing opportunity that changed the way I thought about marriage (my own and the couples I work with), and how I work with couple's in a therapeutic context. I went up to The Hideaway Experience in Amarillo, Texas to observe a 4-Day Marriage intensive. What I was a part of changed my life. In fact, I blogged about that first intensive here. I have a lot more[...]
  • How Your Self-Reactivity Harms Relationships

  • "Somehow, even though we know that certain thoughts and behaviors are bad for us and are rooted in our own self-reactivity [negative patterns of coping], we return to those behaviors and usually find that these actions further assault our identities as human beings and our sense of closeness and safety in relationships. Old ideas die hard." (The Anxious Christian, pp. 93, Rhett Smith -- quotin[...]
  • What Thinking Patterns Fuel Your Anxiety

  • “The average high school kid today has the same level of anxiety as the average psychiatric patient in the early 1950’s.” (Dr. Richard Leahy -- quoted by Mick Ukleja in the article 7 Thinking Patterns That Contribute to Anxiety) Many of you know that I believe anxiety can be a great opportunity and catalyst for growth in our lives -- in fact, I just recorded a short video about this yesterday. [...]
  • What is your anxiety cutting you off from in your life?

  • When I was 11 years old and began to experience traumatic grief from the death of my mom from breast cancer after a five-year battle -- my anxiety manifested itself in the form of stuttering. And stuttering, or my fear of making a fool of myself in front of my classmates cut me off from many aspects of life. It cut me off from participating in the joy of reading out loud in class (something [...]
  • Be the 'Life-Giving' Man That You and Others Deserve

  • Are you a 'life-giving' man? That is a question that I am often asked. It's a term that I began to talk about in my last book, What it Means to be a Man. But I've begun to explore it more fully in the last 6 months and it is the focus of my online program for men. I've learned a lot, and the 6 men who just finished my course taught me a lot. If you are interested in becoming a 'life-givi[...]
 
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