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A Book Resource for Steering Through Chaos

No, the irony is not lost on me that my last post was called ENOUGH: Put Down Those Ministry and Self-Help Books and Pick Up A Novel.

But remember my caveat:

So you don’t have to give up on your ministry and self-help books, but put them down for a season, and pick up a novel.

I have put them down since November and have ploughed my way through novels ever since. So I decided now was the time to pick up a ministry book that intrigued me, and it just so happened that Steering Through Chaos: Mapping a Clear Direction for Your Church in the Midst of Transition and Change, was the book I picked up. The book is written by Scott Wilson who is the Senior Pastor of The Oaks here in Dallas.

Honestly, one of the things that intrigued me about the book was the title, specifically the word “transition.” If you haven’t noticed before, my blog title is “Transitioning Life’s Journey” because I think that we are always in a state of transition, and that effective leaders know how to guide their churches, organizations, et cetera, through these times of transition.

In the book Scott does a great job of mapping out a direction for church ministry, and yet he does it in a very personal narrative style based on his own experiences, while not saying this is the way to do ministry, but rather, here are some principles that can be effective for each and every ministry. That is just one of the things that I found refreshing in this book.

There are numerous topics in the book that will attract varying readers, but the one chapter that resonated with me the most was Chapter 8: The Leadership Gap. I have been in ministry for 15 years, and I’m also a full-time marriage and family therapist now. And one of the things that I think has been missing in many ministries is the willingness, or humility, to bring other key leaders along for the journey. As ministry leaders we often take a Lone Ranger approach and go out alone, rather than seeking counsel and help. I like Scott’s take on finding someone to help you map out your direction, and at the end of the chapter he lays out some great suggestions for getting started.

Steering Through Chaos is a fun and informative read, and there are lots of companions in it for the journey as Scott takes time out to listen to the wisdom from various pastors around the country. I highly recommend it to those of you who are looking for some more ministry clarity as you guide your church through the next transition.

When Kids Hurt Conference…And It’s Free!

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Here is an amazing opportunity that our church, HPPC, along with some other churches are putting on for people this weekend in Dallas. I hope to see you there.

“For youth pastors, volunteer leaders, and parents, When Kids Hurt challenges caring adults to help self-protective teenagers who are struggling to make the transition to adulthood in the midst of fractured families, an increasingly competitive and fast-paced society, and ambiguous moral guidelines.

When Kids Hurt challenges and empowers adults to understand kids and move toward them in ways that can help them grow and become the kinds of adults our world needs to survive and thrive. “It is our hope and prayer that When Kids Hurt can help leaders and pastors understand what adolescents are going through and be more loving and helpful in the ways they relate to the young men and women in the world,” say Clark and Rabey.”

Chap Clark “When Kids Hurt Conference”
Saturday, October 3rd, 9:00am-3:30am
Fellowship Bible Church, Dallas, TX

The Conference is Now Free!!!
Due to the overwhelming support of several church ministries in the DFW metroplex the cost of the conference has been completely underwritten.

www.whenkidshurt.com

A Philosophy of Book Reading to Combat Social Media Saturation

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Throughout the years I have been presented with various philosophies (systems, ways of approaching it) of reading.

  • When I was in grade school I remember the philosophy was basically quantity. The more books I read, especially in the summer time, the more ribbons the library gave me for my achievement.
  • When I was in high school and college the philosophy seemed to be that one better read the material because it will probably be on the exam.
  • When I was in seminary the philosophy was presented to me that my reading was analogous to filling up a reservoir of wisdom and knowledge that I would continually draw upon throughout my ministry.

All of these philosophies have been varied in their approach, but ultimately they have really led me to a love of reading.  But there are so many, many books out there to read.  I actually remember my dad at one point lamenting the fact that he would not be able to read all the books he desired to read before he died one day.

Bite Size Social Media
One of the reasons that I have tried to pull back on, and set better boundaries around my online-social media use, is because my discipline of reading was losing out to the number of hours I spent online.  And in that process I had begun to notice that I was becoming more of a consumer of bite sized information.  It was getting easier and easier to browse through hundreds of articles on a daily basis, and harder and harder to read through a book and let it saturate me. And in the end, very few (and I mean very few) social media avenues actually had the ability to bring about new awareness, insight, and ultimately transformation in my life. I had more and more information, but I wasn’t feeling more knowledgeable, especially in the sense of deep, life changing transformation.

In John Dyer’s post Dostoyevsky’s 1984 Saved Him from Our Brave New World, I came across the fascinating section where John, speaking about Dostoyevsky, says this:

During his exile, the only reading material that he had was a copy of the New Testament and Psalms. Though he was raised in the Orthodox church, he describes this as the time in which he came to know Jesus and experienced conversion. With no access to anything but the most significant literature ever written, he read the Scriptures over and over until it completely saturated him. And it formed his mind to create the highest of art.

Information Deprivation vs. Information Overload

Postman points out two major concerns:

1. The kind of information we intake is insignificant.
2. The amount of information we intake overshadows what little significant information we do intake.

In other words, if you read a passage of Scripture in the morning, then later consume lots of TV shows, blogs, and advertisements, it doesn’t matter if the content is morally good or morally bad, the sheer volume of information will dilute anything truly great and tend you toward seeking more and more insignificant material.

Why Take In Books?
Whether the book comes in a hard copy or digital copy does not matter. The point is that a book requires something of you. It requires time and commitment. Browsing the web does not…at least for me. I’m not saying that one can’t form a discipline on browsing the web, but it’s rare, especially because the click of a button is so close.

When I read a book I have to set-time aside to do it. Usually that means something else is getting put on hold. I’m not on the computer. I’m not watching TV. I’m not at my desk working. I’m not in conversation at coffee with someone. Reading a book requires me to carve out time for it, and it requires a level of commitment if I want to read through it. Reading books also takes a lot of work, and if we don’t exercise that muscle it is bound to atrophy. I’ve begun to notice that several things have begun to atrophy when I was spending inordinate amounts of time online. Writing by hand has become more difficult. Patience has become more difficult. Imagination was lacking because the computer did the imagining for me. My intellectual skills were dulling because I was jumping from bite size to bite size pieces of data.

My Philosophy of Reading
I’ve always been an avid reader and usually have a number of books on my desk or bedside table at once. I’m not good at reading one book and moving onto the next. I like a handful at once, and then another handful after those are read. In order to keep a balance in my reading and to make sure I’m hitting on all cylinders I’ve developed a little philosophy of reading for myself.

These are the four types of books I’m looking to read at one time:

Intellectual Rigor…
In my rotation at all times is a book that I deem to be of great intellectual rigor. This is usually a book that is slow going and may require me to keep a dictionary or thesaurus handy as I read. It often requires me to re-read sentences and paragraphs a number of times before I can move on. These are books that may only allow me to read 3-10 pages at a time because I need to process what has been written. Sometimes I will set the book aside for days or even a few weeks before I return to it. They are ultimately books that help one establish, and undergird their philosophies in life. Think of them as cornerstones or anchors.

Vocationally Practical…
This is not to say that that books above are not vocationally practical, but that these books are more accessible and sometimes requires less intellectual rigor in reading them. They are often designed specifically for certain topics that allow fairly easy consumption. These are the books in the area of business, therapy, ministry, design, etc. that one finds helpful tips in them, but they aren’t necessarily saying anything groundbreaking or new. They may bring new focus to the topic, but they are often built upon the philosophies/theologies of many, many writers before them. I would say that these are the most commonly read non-fiction books.

Fiction/Novel…
I find it a requirement for myself that I always have one book of fiction in the rotation. Without fiction I find that my imagination begins to atrophy. I also find that characters and narrative provide amazing insight into life, work and play that “practical non-fiction” books do not. I also know it’s a tendency, especially for those involved in ministry and other work settings to find themselves only reading “practical non-fiction” books relating to their profession.

Hobbies…
I usually have one book that I’m reading that pertains to one of my hobbies. This is a great way to learn more about what I enjoy doing, provide insight, helpful tips, and help me delve deeper into my passion.

There is not a time limit on when these books have to be read by, but I do my best to keep them in a rotation each day/week.  Sometimes it takes several weeks.  Sometimes a few month or two.

What Say You?
Do you have a philosophy of reading?

What works best for you?

Paradigm Shifting, Life Shaping Books

It seems we all like books. And we especially like making lists of books. In 2005 I wrote The Five Books I Would Recommend to a College Student…or Actually, to Anyone!, and listed in another post the Top 100 Religious Books of the 20th Century According to Christianity Today. If you want you could access lists for the 100 Best Novels and 100 Best Nonfiction Lists, and yes, there is even a list for the 100 Must-Read Books: The Essential Man’s Library. Sorry women, I couldn’t find your list.

But what I’m interested in here is another list. Books that have been paradigm shifting, and life shaping for you.

When we think of books in those terms I think the lists we have are often reduced, because just not every book, or every other book….or even 1 in every 1000 book or so is paradigm shifting, and for that matter gives shape to your life.

There were many more I could have listed, but I have listed my 10 below. It’s interesting to notice how many of them come out of required reading for graduate school or my vocational interests. So though these books are important to me, I wonder what new books will be added as my vocational interests broaden over the years. As a former pastor, current therapist and social media/tech dabbler, the books I choose might be very different than someone else in the same lines of profession, and maybe very, very different from someone in different vocations. Maybe?

What 10 books have been paradigm shifting and life shaping for you?

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These are my 10, and I will just say why in 1-2 sentences, or maybe just a few words…AND they are not in order of importance (except the Bible), but rather alphabetically by author’s last name.

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First Kindle…And now Logos!

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I first shared with you my excitement after getting the Kindle after Father’s Day of 2008. For someone who loves books, lots of them, it was a huge step. Leading up to that I had been weaning my library down (from about 3-4 thousand books down to a few hundred–about a 6 year process which picked up intensity in the last year or so).

Why did I do that?
Ego & Identity: My books were sort of like an ego boost and homage to my graduate school degrees, as if my books made me smart.  And my identity started getting wrapped up in them.  They had become too important. They were taking over my life basically.

  • Cost: Books are expensive to buy, shelve, move, etc.
  • Space: Just didn’t have room and we didn’t want them all over the house.
  • Amazon Kindle: I could take as many books with me as I wanted, and they were cheaper than hardcopy/paperback books.
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    Running & Participating in the Christian Life

    41gvwartqxl_bo2204203200_pisitb-sticker-arrow-clicktopright35-76_aa240_sh20_ou01_I absolutely love Eugene Peterson. Few theologians have the combination of brilliant insight and great writing skills like him. In his book, Eat This Book: A Conversation in the Art of Spiritual Reading there is a beautiful passage in there about running.

    As some of you may know if you follow this blog I have been on an off and on running kick for the last 3 years. I ran the Chicago Marathon in October of 2006, the Los Angeles Marathon in March of 2007, and registered and eventually withdrew from the Huntington Beach Marathon in the Fall of 2007 and the San Diego Rock n’ Roll Marathon in the spring of 2008. Two marathons down, feeling good.

    And then my daughter was born and all the energy and drive that I had was sucked right out of me. Before I couldn’t get enough reading material on running. I read magazines, books, rented DVD movies about famous runners. If it had to do with running, I was reading and studying it. But as time wore on and I couldn’t compete in those last two races, the material started to disappear.

    Read below as Peterson takes the activity of running and ties it so eloquently into our spiritual lives.

    Eat This Book: A Conversation in the Art of Spiritual Reading pp. 70-71

    The participatory quality of spiritual reading struck me forcibly when i was thirty-five years old. I had taken up running again. I had run in college and seminary and enjoyed it immensely, but when I left school, I left running. It never occurred to me that running was something an adult might do just for the fun of it. Besides, I was a pastor now and I wasn’t sure how my parishoners would take to seeing their pastor running thinly clad along the back roads of our community. But I was noticing other people, doctors and lawyers and executives whom I knew, running in unexpected places without apparent loss of dignity, men and women my age and older, and realized that I could probably get by with it too. I went out and bought running shoes–Adidas, they were–and discovered the revolution in footwear that had taken place since my student days. I began having fun, enjoying again the smooth rhythms of long-distance running, the quietness, the solitude, the heightened senses, the muscular freedom, the texture of the ground under my feet, the robust embracing immediacy of the weather–wind, sun, rain, snow…whatever. Soon I was competing in 10K races every month or so, and then a marathon once a year. Running developed from a physical act to a ritual that gathered meditation, reflection, and prayer into the running. By this time I was subscribing to three running magazines and regularly getting books from the library on runners and running. I never tired of reading about running–diet, stretching, training methods, care of injuries, resting heart rate, endorphins, carbohydrate loading, electrolyte replacements–if it was about running I read it. How much is there to write about running? There aren’t an infinite number of ways you can go about it–mostly it is just putting one foot before the other. None of the writing, with few exceptions, was written very well. But it didn’t matter that I had read nearly the same thing twenty times before; it didn’t matter if the prose was patched together with cliches; I was a runner and I read it all.

    And then I pulled a muscle and couldn’t run for a couple of months as i waited for my thigh to heal. It took me about two weeks to notice that since my injury I hadn’t picked up a running book or opened a running magazine. I didn’t decide not to read them; they were still all over the house, but I wasn’t reading them. I wasn’t reading because I wasn’t running. The moment I began running again I started reading again.

    That is when I caught the significance of the modifier “spiritual” in “spiritual reading.” It mean participatory reading. It meant that I read every word on the page as an extension or deepening or correction or affirmation of something that I was a part of. I was reading about running not primarily to find out something, not to learn something, but for companionship and validation and confirmation of the experience of running. Yes, I did learn a few things along the way, but mostly it was to extend and deepen and populate the world of running that I loved so much. But if I wasn’t running, there was nothing to deepen.

    The parallel with reading Scripture seems to me almost exact; if I am not participating in the reality–the God reality, the creation/salvation/holiness reality–revealed in the Bible, not involved in the obedience Calvin wrote of, I am probably not going to be much interested in reading about it–at least not for long.

    Obedience is the thing, living in active response to the living god. The most important question we ask of this text is not, “What does this mean?” but “What can I obey?” A simple act of obedience will open up our lives to this text far more quickly than any number of Bible studies and dictionaries and concordances.

    Not that the study is not important. A Jewish rabbi I once studied with would often say, “For us Jews studying the Bible is more important that obeying it, because if you don’t understand it rightly you will obey it wrongly and your obedience will be disobedience.”

    This is also true.



    Reflection:

    1. Does, and how, can this passage correlate with examples in your own life?

    2. Have you ever noticed in your own life that when you are on a “spiritual high”, that your Bible and other theological material, devotions, etc. are ever present…but if you hit a tough spot, those things start to disappear too?

    3. Peterson uses the example of running, what other metaphors can you draw from?  Please share.

    Depression, Burnout & Ministry: Anne Jackson Interview, Part 2

    jacksona22This is Part 2 of my interview with author and blogger Anne Jackson.

    Check out Part 1 here.

    From your own perspective, what is at the root behind the stigma of counseling and therapy in the Church? What would you say to Christians who think that we should not take medications for depression and anxiety?

    It has always been difficult for me to say I needed to be in counseling to the extent I was, or to say that I have been on a myriad of anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medicine because I’ve heard countless times people question my salvation or my authority to work out God’s calling in my life. Most people think that something is wrong with my spiritual walk if I have to use these “crutches.” I think that the people who are judgmental about these things live in a bubble that desperately needs to be popped. That means they have stayed safe and comfortable their whole life…and there is nothing about Christianity or redemption that is safe or comfortable.

    What goes through your head when you hear Christians or church leaders tell people that they just need to pray more, or have more faith, or read their Bible more to overcome their depression and anxiety?

    Honestly, I want to punch them. It makes me so angry (Yes, I have anger issues too!) ☺ There is a spiritual element to our emotional and mental health and we absolutely should practice those disciplines of our faith. But there is no magic pill to cure all. We are all uniquely designed and will each walk a different road for a different reason.

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    Innovation3 Gathering–Live Blog by Rhett Smith (Tuesday & Wednesday)

    I’m very excited to be a part of the live blogging team for the Innovation3 Gathering, put on by Leadership Network, and hosted by Bent Tree Bible Fellowship.

    I hope that you can join me on my blog Tuesday and Wednesday as I will live blog 4 specific sessions, and as much of the rest of the event that I can. I hope to see your input and comments throughout the day (via this blog and Twitter–please use the #i3 hashtag), and if you have any questions you would like me to pose the speakers in or out of their sessions, please let me know. You can reach me via the live blog or on Twitter @rhetter.

    If you are having trouble viewing this live blog, try watching it in a pop-up window: Click Here

    Not only can YOU participate, but the tweets of 11 other Twitterers will post automatically to the live blog. So stay tuned for their behind the scenes insight and thoughts: gregatkinson, cynthiaware, djchuang, scottmcclellan, decart, lancebauslaugh, camron_ware, flowerdust, innovation3, tonymorganlive and mbstockdale.

    Connect In Other Ways

    Innovation3 Twitter Announcements @innovation3

    Innovation3 Twitter Hashtag #i3

    Innovation3 Website

    Innovation3 Blog

    Innovation3 Flickr Photostream

    Innovation3 Bloggers Meetup/Tweetup

    See you there in person or online….

    Depression, Burnout & Ministry: Anne Jackson Interview, Part 1

    Today I begin the first part of a two part interview I did with Anne Jackson.  I first heard about Anne around two years ago when one of my church jacksona22co-workers Matt Singley kept referring to some blogger named Flowerdust.  I was told that she was one of the most popular and influential bloggers on the internet.  Immediately intrigued I hopped onto her site and almost immediately felt a breath of fresh air as wrote with an authenticity, vulnerability and purpose that is sometimes hard to find–not only in blogging circles, but the “Christian” world.  Since that day Anne is one of my favorite daily reads and I  really appreciate her insight and passion that is obviously very contagious among her readership.

    As you will see from the two-part interview, my main desire behind interviewing her was because of her often “lone voice” in the Christian blogging circles to openly talk about issues of depression, anxiety, mental health and medication.  I think her willingness to talk so openly about these things has resonated with many, many people as is witness by the tons of comments she receives on a daily basis.

    51exizsjwkl_sl500_aa240_Oh, and lest I forget, she’s the author of the new book Mad Church Disease: Overcoming the Burnout Epidemic.

    Anne, in a sentence or two, what was the impetus behind writing Mad Church Disease?

    It was twenty seven years in the making…from watching my own parents burn out in ministry, to my own stress-induced hospital stay, I realized that left and right church leaders are being taken out – yet nobody is talking about it.  I hope this book will catalyze conversations about not only our brokenness, but our health.

    As you address the issues of burnout and self-care I was wondering if you have seen a correlation between burnout or lack of self-care and depression?  Do you have any personal examples you could share?

    Stress, when accumulated over time, can cause chemical changes in our bodies.  It increases bad hormones and decreases good ones.  As time goes on, these changes can lead to semi-permanent or permanent damage.

    Over the two years I allowed the stress to run my life, I noticed how I went from feeling “stressed” to feeling hopeless and unmotivated.  At its worst, there were days when I didn’t even leave my bed.  Ashamed (and again, unmotivated), I withdrew from my relationships and my responsibilities.

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    Balancing the Entrepreneur, Manager and Technician in Ministry

    Check out my latest blogpost for Leadership Network , Balancing the Entrepreneur, Manager and Technician in Ministry.

    The post is my review of Michael Gerber’s book The E-Myth Revisited: Why Most Small Businesses Don’t Work and What to Do About It.

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