PREMARITAL

In my work with couples preparing for marriage I use a couple of different approaches, each consisting of 8 sessions together.

 

Approach 1

For the purpose of the Twogether in Texas program I use either the Prepare-Enrich assessment tool, or The Strongest Link: The Couple. Both curriculums are approved by the Twogether in Texas program which provides incentives to couples who do premarital counseling/education prior to marriage. These curriculum will help couples see the benefits of marriage, as well as helping them in the areas of communication skills and conflict resolution.

Our work consists of eight hours of counseling and marriage education which can be done in individual sessions together and an online test (for Prepare-Enrich only). The sessions are as follows, with room for flexibility and customization as determined by the couple and therapist. This can also be done in a group setting in a one day seminar (8 hour class) if your church or organization is interested in hosting the event.

Session 1

Is an introductory session where I get to know you, ask some questions (history taking), let you know what we will be doing.

Session 2

Is a session focused on the results (strength and growth areas) of the online test that you both will take between the first two sessions. (Prepare/Enrich only)

Session 3

Is a session focused on Personality Issues (i.e. assertiveness, self-confidence, avoidance, partner dominance).

Session 4

Is a session focused on Intra-Personal Issues (i.e. idealistic distortion, personality issues, spiritual beliefs, leisure activities, marriage expectations, marriage satisfaction).

Session 5

Is a session focused on Inter-Personal Issues (i.e. communication, conflict resolution, children and parenting, couple closeness, role relationship, sexual relationship).

Session 6

Is a session focused on External Issues (i.e. family of origin, family and friends, financial arrangement).

Session 7

Is a session focused on how to stay connected/stay sane as your approach the wedding date.

Session 8

Is a closing session, where we assess if you would like to meet again, as well as encouraging you in your steps forward.

 

Approach 2

In this approach I work out of the model that I was trained in as a therapist at The Hideaway Experience, and which can be found in the book, 5 Days to a New Marriage. Our work consists of eight hours of counseling and education which can be done in individual sessions together and an online test (optional Prepare-Enrich). The sessions are as follows, with room for flexibility and customization as determined by the couple and therapist. This can also be done in a group setting in a one day seminar (8 hour class) if your church or organization is interested in hosting the event. In our time together you will become more aware of and take responsibility for 8 key areas as identified in the sessions below:

Session 1

Getting to Know Each Other

Session 2

Understanding How the Pain Cycle Works

Session 3

Identifying Our Own Pain Cycle

Session 4

Identifying Our Own Peace Cycle

Session 5

Making the Peace Cycle Permanent

Session 6

Reaching Solutions to Problems Together

Session 7

Honoring Each Partner’s Strengths

Session 8

Celebrating the vision for a New Marriage