To understand the importance of leverage, you have to understand grandiosity, especially male grandiosity. Therapy and self-help have mostly focused on helping people come up from a one-down position of shame. But we don’t really talk much about what it means to help people come down from the one-up position of grandiosity. This is really pivotal in terms of working with men, because they typicall[...]
A few weeks ago I spoke to college students at Southern Methodist University in Dallas, Texas. I love speaking to and working with college students. It's such an amazing time of life...so many opportunities and roads to journey down, but also lots of fear and anxiety over which possibility to choose and which road to journey on. It's a perfect collision of feeling excited and scared at the same ti[...]
In this clip, marriage researcher and therapist John Gottman talks about the "four horsemen of the apocalypse" -- which are predictors of divorce.
In this video he deals specifically with the issue of contempt.
Gottman states that not only is contempt corrosive of love, but it is also corrosive of one's immune system.