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The Anxious Christian: Can God Use Your Anxiety for Good?.

I thought that writing the book was the long and tough part, and that when I handed my manuscript in…I was sort of done. Wrong. There is so much more work to do, and I’m excited about all the conversations that I’m already having around the book, and I’m looking forward to the ones that I haven’t even had yet.

There are more articles coming on this topic, interviews, etc. But for now, join us for the next week at Thrive80 for some posts by me and others on the topic of anxiety.

I hope that you can join in and contribute your voice to such an important topic as anxiety…especially as it relates to our Christian faith.

The Anxious Christian: There Is No Way to Properly Say Thank You to Everyone!

When I originally sat down to write acknowledgements for my book The Anxious Christian: Can God Use Your Anxiety for Good?, I realized about 10 pages into the acknowledgements that that wasn’t going to work. The publisher was looking for 1-2 pages, but I was 10 pages in and only partly done thanking all the people who have contributed to this book.

This is the most important take away for me as I wrote and completed this book…and it is this:

When a book…and if a book…finally sees the light of day…it is only because its author had the privilege and blessing of having many amazing and encouraging people in their life along the way.

So friends…this book (which is a dream come true for me–I’ve wanted to write and publish a book since grade school) only comes to fruition because I’ve had the privilege of having all of you in my life. I’ve had so many amazing friends and acquaintances over the years that I can’t be more thankful to God than I am.

I wish I could write down each and everyone’s name in this email, but I can’t, because I will undoubtedly forget someone very special by accident. I have had the joy of living life in some amazing communities of people who have left an indelible mark on who I am, and what comes out in the book.

I’m just so thankful for all the earlier communities of people that I was able to live life among (Kachina Elementary School; Cactus High School; Faith Bible Church, etc.). As I wrote and retold many stories in my book, there were many vivid faces etched in my mind. I particularly remember a number of students who came to my house and left cards and flowers after the death of my mom from breast cancer when I was in the 5th grade. Those memories of your kind actions were positive fuel for my writing. Thank you.

I’m thankful for the early communities of people who really fostered my faith and helped me to grow. It was in these communities of caring and gracious people that I was really challenged to own my own faith (Grand Canyon University–both as a student and admissions counselor; Fuller Seminary Southwest). I owe a lot to the discipleship/chapel staff at Grand Canyon University, who in April of 1996 gave a stuttering student the opportunity to share his story and preach the Easter morning sunrise service. Your community is prevalent in my story as you will see in the book. And I’m thankful to the amazing extension campus of Fuller Southwest Seminary. It is there that I grew a stronger love of God and was really challenged to use and think through my faith in amazing ways. Thank you.

I’m thankful to the amazing host families and Spanish school (CSA) who welcomed me into their lives for a little over three months in the Spring/Summer of 2001. I consider this period of my life as one of the most transforming. And it was here that I began to fill up my journals with material that would eventually find its way into this book in various forms. Thank you.

I’m thankful to two major communities of people who I credit with really helping me become the person that I am today (Bel Air Presbyterian Church; Fuller Theological Seminary). It was at Fuller Seminary that I learned to love theology from people who held the highest academic standards coupled with a love of God and commitment to his Word. I loved Fuller so much I went back again for another degree. So I owe Fuller a double thank you in many ways. And it was at Bel Air that my theology was given the opportunity to be practiced and lived out among the lives of many, many amazing college students. I have to pause here and really thank the hundreds of college students whom I had the privilege of serving with from 2001-2008 as their college pastor at Bel Air. You (my students) shaped me in ways that you probably didn’t even know. And for the 7 different leadership teams who showed me grace when I often didn’t know what I was doing as a leader. Thank you. It was also at Bel Air Presbyterian Church that I met my wife in the amazing young adult community of The Foundry. I will never forget those Tuesday nights of worship at The Refinery and where I first talked to Heather. This community of people during this period of 2001-2008 pretty much provided me with the raw material that was shaped into book form. You will find in my book the unique role that Bel Air played in helping me to face my anxiety. Thank you.

I’m thankful to Highland Park Presbyterian Church in Dallas, TX, who for three years employed me in the youth department to teach parenting classes. This experience really helped me put together material that made its way into the book, but more importantly, provided the avenue to speak a couple of times a month to parents…which was an opportunity to face my anxiety a lot…and grow in the process. A special thanks to Lars Rood whose friendship began in 2001 at Bel Air Presbyterian Church when he sat on the committee that hired me as the college pastor, and who later hired me at Highland Park Presbyterian Church to teach the parenting classes. Hopefully we will work together again. Thank you.

I’m thankful to the Hideaway Experience in Amarillo, TX who has greatly shaped me as a therapist. I’ve learned more about my marriage as a therapist on staff there than almost any other place. The Hideaway Experience with a number of other colleagues both in TX and other states have contributed to me not only personally, but in my work as a therapist and writer. Thank you.

I want to thank my close friends and family. Many who are in Texas, and others who are scattered across the country. I’m thankful for my friends who have walked with me through all phases of my life (light and dark) and who have never abandoned me, but always journeyed with me and offered grace. I’m thankful to all the amazing writers out there who I have fostered friendships with over the last few years. Your phone calls, emails, helpful conversations, encouraging texts helped me persevere (John Dyer, Anne Jackson, Adam McHugh, Jon Acuff, Matthew Anderson, Lars Rood, Hugh Hewitt, etc, etc.) I owe you all big time. Thank you.

I’m thankful to my supportive family who has encouraged my dreams of writing all along the way. I was able to thank them in the opening and ending pages of my book as well as throughout. Thanks to my amazing wife…she has always supported my dreams and been my biggest encourager. Without her help and support, this book would not be possible. And thank you to my daughter Hayden and my son Hudson whose daily joy was the inspiration to keep on writing when I didn’t feel like I had it in me. Thank you.

Last…though it sounds cliche, it is not. The work of God in my life is weaved throughout this book. Without him in my life I never would have had the courage to face my anxiety. But with him, not only did he give me the courage to face it, he transformed it into something beautiful in my life. May God be glorified when people read my book. Thank you.

I hope that in the ensuing months I will be able to thank many of you who I did not specifically state in this post, but who were on my mind throughout. Hopefully you know who you are…I am thankful for you.

The Anxious Christian is Coming Soon….Sneak Peek

This has been an exciting month for me as I have been wrapping up some details on the soon to be publication of The Anxious Christian: Can God Use Your Anxiety for Good?.

The book will be released by Moody Publishers on March 1.

I’m very thankful for the amazing group of people who have endorsed the book, and a special thanks to the New York Times best selling author of Quitter, Jon Acuff for writing the foreword to the book.

If you are someone who has wrestled with anxiety, then I believe this book is for you.

Here is a sneak peek:

Anxious Christian from ETS Productions on Vimeo.

Anxiety is Good…

Philosophers and Poets, from their perch on the cutting edge of reason, have always seen the advantage of anxiety. It is the “dizziness of reason,” argued Soren Kierkegaard; “the handmaiden of creativity,” said T.S. Eliot; “the beginning of conscience,” observed novelist Angela Carter. So have actors backstage, summoning eternal energies and edges for the roles they play, and sprinters on the block, finding hormonal springs in the fear of failure that allow them to achieve race times they never managed in practice.

So begins the opening paragraph of TIME Magazine’s December cover story, The Two Faces of Anxiety.

This is a timely topic as the release of my book The Anxious Christian: Can God Use Your Anxiety for Good? is being published by Moody Publishers on March 1, 2012. When I was in the book proposal writing/submission phase in the late Fall of 2010, anxiety was the topic that my acquisition’s editor Randall Payleitner seemed to be really focused on. You see, in all my anxiety of trying to submit the right proposal I had submitted a large, sprawling dissertation that lacked any real focus or clarity, but Randall seemed most excited about a chapter I had submitted on anxiety. So eventually, one chapter idea became the whole theme of my new book.

I think anxiety is an important topic because everyone at some point in their life struggles with it, and many struggle with it on an ongoing basis.

But is all anxiety necessarily bad?

I don’t believe so….in fact, anxiety can actually be good for us as I see it as a catalyst to help us grow as people. There are only a couple of options when you begin to feel anxiety.

  1. Pretend it doesn’t exist and push it below the surface.
  2. Acknowledge that the anxiety is there and use it as an opportunity to move you forward/to grow in life.

You choose.

New Directions: 5 Changes in My Life and Career

The last year and a half of my life has been a complete whirlwind. That’s the best word that I can use to describe all the things that have been going on.

So today, I’m excited to announce several different events and changes that have happened and that are on the horizon.

First: As many of you already know, I signed a book deal with Moody Publishers back in March. The manuscript has been completed (edits and all), and is on its final leg before it hits the e readers in February (I believe), and the bookshelves on March 1. I’m thankful for everyone who has been involved in this process. If you are interested, you can pre-order your copy of The Anxious Christian: Can God Use Your Anxiety for Good?

Second: I resigned my job from HopeWorks Counseling one month ago, and I’m excited to announce that I have ventured off into a new practice at Auxano Counseling. This move allows me to really focus on several things that I’m excited about. So if you need/want counseling, or know someone who does, I am now taking referrals at my new practice. Auxano is located in the beautiful Willow Bend Wellness Building in Plano, TX, and I’m excited to be a part of the great practitioners in that building.

Third: I have officially launched a new counseling website that better conveys the three things I’m passionate about–therapy, writing, and speaking/teaching. Check out the site and the beautiful design by Ryan Smith. If you are wanting a new site, I recommend Ryan.

Fourth: I’ve launched a new monthly newsletter that you can subscribe to. Each month you will receive information, tips and resources on a variety of topics such as family, marriage, anxiety, emerging adulthood, transitions, youth ministry and more.

Fifth: I’m currently in the midst of working on a new self-care/counseling group that is for youth pastors. The group will launch in Jan/Feb. (in Plano, TX) of 2012 and will equip youth pastors in better understanding who they are (identity issues), how to set proper boundaries, manage their emotional reactivity, practice self-care, take care of their marriages/family, etc, etc. Stay tuned for more details. If you are interested in being a part of this limited group of 6-8 youth pastors, please send me an email.

Thanks for all of your support and encouragement in my endeavors.

One Woman’s Journey to Help Others Share Their Stories

A few months ago, a friend of mine pointed me towards the blog and online shop of Katie Clemons. My friend knew that I love to journal and thought I would like her stuff and her story.

And he was right. I love the story of how Katie came into journaling and how that passion for story and writing fueled her endeavor to develop her own line of journals.

Keeping a journal has been one of the most important ways that I have been able to thoughtfully reflect on my life. That reflection has been really important as I have made decisions and transitioned through different stages of life.

So I decided to ask Katie a few questions about journaling and life. I hope you enjoy, and I hope you find her story inspiring.

  1. Katie, I love the story about how your journals came to fruition. Can you share what the catalyst was behind you launching Gadanke?

A couple of years ago, NPR’s StoryCorp was in town. It was also my grandma’s 90th birthday.

The two of us decided to hop into the recording studio to capture some pieces of her story. I had all sorts of prompts to help her with her story telling. (I was always the listener, the one who asked question after question.)

The only problem?

My grandma couldn’t remember. Too much time had passed.

Later, my dad turned to me and said, “Katie, I need you to write down your story.” I knew he wished he had his mom’s stories. So I started writing. I started wondering about all of the other women who have stories deep inside of them, and I started thinking about how my tendency to just listen and ask could help put those stories onto paper. Gadanke was born with fabulous writing prompts and recycled papers. I feel so lucky to be living my dream.

I’m fascinated by the various transitions in our lives and I’m wondering how journaling one’s story can better help them navigate these transitions? Have they helped you navigate your own transitions in life? How for example?

When you journal, you are not audience-focused. Blogs, facebook, and conversations with friends have added so much to our lives. But we tend to share what we want other people to know or what we think will get the biggest response.

Journaling is about connecting with your heart or God.

I often think of a dear customer of mine. She has been struggling with infertility. Not too long ago, her sister announced her own pregnancy, and in all this joy for the sister, the woman also felt so much pain and sadness. She couldn’t talk about this pain on something like Facebook or her blog. She wanted to be happy for her sister!

So she journaled.

She let out that pain by writing about it.

These are transitions in life that are obvious and that we can feel. I want to help people draw those stories out.

I also want to draw out the stories that we don’t even realize are something that matter. We don’t realize that our normal right now will be totally different in 20 years. So often, we don’t even realize the transformations growing in our hearts. But they show up on paper. In 20 years, wouldn’t it be awesome to read about? Wouldn’t it be awesome to read that about our parents and grandparents?

What advice would you give someone who really wants to write more about their life, but feels like they have nothing to say….or feels like they don’t know how to organize their thoughts?

First – your story DOES MATTER. It matters to the people who know you. It matters to the people who will know you in the future. It’ll matter to the people who will never get to meet you but will hear about you. And it matters for you.

My entire mission with Gadanke is to create prompts that capture the stories for you. I love creating quotations that will have you thinking about favorite foods in childhood, where you dream of going, and what a typical today is like for you.

Katie, there are lots of journals out there in the marketplace, but I was wondering if you could tell us why you believe yours are best designed for people who want to “celebrate their story.”

I cannot claim to be better because our stories are all so different. So I focus on making something that can be most adaptable to anyone. Here are two things customers embrace in my products:

1. Gadanke journals have loose rings that you can pop open. Add more pages; reorganize the pages; hole punch and add letters, postcards, and memorabilia. It becomes a scrapbook with your story if you want it to be.

2. Gadanke journals have lots of extra bits. Library cards, tags, pockets, stickers, and Italian patterned papers give your stories a visual dimension. Plus they’re so fun to vary your writing on!

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