I love technology. Cue Napoleon Dynamite. Technology has helped me connect to some amazing people and transformed a lot of the way that I work, write, speak, etc. But technology has also come at a cost. Many times it has left me feeling more stressed out and anxious. And it has often...unfortunately, been a hindrance and caused issue with some of my most important relationships.
Often I find m[...]
Last month I wrote a blog and shot a video called Two Words You Should Never Tell a Boy. The two words I was referring to are "stop crying." It's a message that is devastating to boys and leads to lots of other problems for them in the future. Problems that I see everyday in my counseling office with the men that I work with.
I agree with Terence Real in that we need more relational heroes in [...]
Do you take insurance?
This is one of the questions I get most often.
And I hear it from both potential clients and therapists in the field.
The simple answer is that I do not take insurance. I have never taken insurance...and at this point in my practice I have no plans to take insurance. In fact, I have other options I have outlined first before I would take insurance.
The decision to [...]
I've been thinking a lot about marriage these last few weeks for several reasons. Whether it is with the couples I work with, or my own personal marriage...I have come to realize that we just can't do marriage on our own. We can throw all the tools at it we want, but at the end of the day it takes a supernatural power that you or I are not equipped with. So as I have thought about my own marriage [...]
"Each man is a bridge, spanning in his lifetime all of the images and traditions about masculinity inherited from past generations and bestowing--or inflicting--his own retelling of the tale on those who ensue. Unresolved depression often passes from father to son, despite the father's best intentions, like a toxic, unacknowledged patrimony. Conversely, when a man transforms the internalized disco[...]
When I work with people in therapy we often talk about the importance of being physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy. And one of the primary ways that many people who foster their spiritual growth is through their participation in the Bible. That may be through reading, memorization, study, teaching, preaching...trying to live out what is written in their daily lives.
"Weak leaders are the ones who only extend the benefits of the Circle of Safety to their fellow senior executives and a chosen few others. They look out for each other, but they do not offer the same considerations to those outside their 'inner circle.' Without the protection of our leaders, everyone outside the inner circle is forced to work alone or in small tribes to protect and advance their o[...]
Last week I came across this article that stated, being ignored is worse than being bullied.
I had to stop and think about that statement for a second. Nevermind the article and the research, I wanted to just think about that statement, especially since we hear so much about bullying in the media these days.
I can't come out and say one is worse than the other...they are both painful experie[...]
Not long after moving to Chicago, I called a wise friend to ask for some spiritual direction. I described the pace of life in my current ministry. The church where I serve tends to move at a fast clip. I also told him about our rhythms of family life: we are in the van-driving, soccer-league, piano-lesson, school-orientation-night years. I told him about the present condition of my heart, as best [...]
In yesterday's post Running as an Antidote for Anxiety and Depression, I told you about why I love running and how it has transformed my life.
One aspect that I didn't tell you about is how running not only helps with my anxiety and depression, but it's a great activity for my prayer life. I spend a lot of time in prayer during my runs, as well as listening to music sporadically throughout the[...]
I love running!
It has completely changed my life.
I have loved running since I was a little kid. I loved running and playing with friends. I loved field day and running the sprints and the longer races. I ran track in high school.
But somewhere along the way running became a bit of drudgery. Something I just did to stay in shape. But that changed in 2005 when my brother asked me to run t[...]