Archive - January, 2005

How can you enjoy the benefits of Christ if you detach yourself from the living Christ?

That is the closing question from Tim Stafford, senior editor of Christianity Today, in his latest article titled, “The Church, Why bother?”

As you may have noticed from my last post, the topic of community, and its relation to church has been on my mind a lot. Or more appropriately, our relationship to Christ, and the role that the church plays in that.

Without dissecting that too much, let me say a few things, taking off from a quote by the 3rd century bishop and martyr, Cyprian.

“YOU CANNOT have God for your Father unless you have the Church for your Mother.”
Cyprian, On the Unity of the Church

Obviously from this quote, it would appear that one cannot both be a Christian, and yet not seriously consider the role of the church body in your spiritual walk. Just as everyone has a mother and father, so is there also a link between you as a Christian and your churchgoing…your role in church community. And though some of us might not have an intact family of both mother and father, or though we might have a family that does not always get along, so it is with the church at times. But nonetheless, you are family. And nonetheless, as a Christian, you are part of the church family, in which you are a vital member of it’s body, as Paul so cleary demonstrates in I Cor. 12:12, “For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ.

Stafford, nor I would question a person’s authenticity in relation to their conversion, or salvific experience, but what would be questioned is one’s commitment to Christ, if he or she is not involved in a church body. A church body provides many things, from encouragement, to growth, to accountability, an avenue of worship, and on and on. These are things that one cannot attain, or hope to aspire to outside of a body of believers in the church.

Stafford says, “The church is the body of Christ, and it carries his wounds. To know Christ is to share in the fellowship of his sufferings–even if the suffering comes at the hands of the sinners who sit in the pews or preach from the pulpit.”

To skip out on church, so as to avoid pain, suffering, disappointment is impossible. But rather, as believers in Christ Jesus, we have the greatest potential to grow spiritually through the testing, and trying of our faith through enduring patience within the context of the church community. “Somehow long-suffering is appropriate to a place and a people who worship Jesus. ‘How could we experience him in his death,’ Lillian wants to know, ‘if we could not tolerate some little deaths of ourselves?’”

As Christians, we have the unique opportunity to be a light to the world around us by the way we not only live in peace and joy in community, but also by the way we live in strife, and suffering, and patience with one another. In the Four Loves, C.S. Lewis states CT ’03., “Nature cannot satisfy the desires she arouses nor answer theological questions nor sanctify us. Our real journey to God involves constantly turning our backs on her; passing from the dawn-lit fields into some pokey little church, or (it might be) going to work in an East End Parish.” There is something bigger out there, pulling us into something that may seem small, and rigid and cooped up, like a church, when in reality, church and the community within let’s us experience and fulfill our greatest desires of belonging, even though we may at times be disillusioned by the reality only we can see.

Bonhoeffer puts it this way CT ’03., “Only that fellowship which faces such disillusionment, with all its unhappy and ugly aspects, begins to be what it should be in God’s sight, begins to grasp in faith the promise that is given to it.”

These words seem very much like the words of most marriage counselors when a newly engaged couple arrives to their office. The couple may have all these lofty and unrealistic ideas and expectations of what a relationship should look and be like, without having even considered the hardwork and effort that is put into that relationship. In marriage, like in the church, we may expect a bed of roses and heaven on earth all the time, without realizing that those things are products of the hardwork, trials and suffering that are a part of the journey. For the counselor, this is their attempt to “burst the bubble” as they may put it, and help the couple correctly understand the greatest potential they have together when they understand the reality of all the hard work and joy and effort and happiness that is put into that relationship. With a correct understanding of disillusionment, where reality is put into context, greater potential is able to come to fruition. This is truly a movement from me, to we. And so this is often the case with our relationship with the church as well. A move more me in the church, to the we in the church.

In a CT article from June 23, 2003, titled “Suburban Spirituality, David Goetz states, “Disillusionment with one’s church, then, is not a reason to leave but a reason to stay and see what God will create in one’s life and in the local church. What I perceive to be my needs—’I need a church with a more biblical preacher who uses specific examples from real life’—may not correspond to my true spiritual needs.” CT ’03..

When we honestly reflect on our relationship with Jesus Christ, and the role our church community plays in that relationship, do we have a Gnostic faith as Tim Stafford states. “I would call it Gnostic faith. For them the spirit is completely separated from the body. They think your spirit can be with Jesus Christ while your body goes its own way.” Or, can we honestly reflect and say that their is an integration of both body and soul, of how we communicate and live before God, and how we communicate and live before those in Christian community.

Read in full the article The Church, Why bother?.

And for more quotes on the importance of the church in our spiritual walk, read Reflections: The Church.

Community? What is it?

Well, I’m not going to answer that question in this blog, but rather steer you towards some resources. As a lot of you know I have been struggling with what community is: What it looks like? How it works? Etc., Etc.

Most of these questions are coming out of my desire to better understand the role of the church in this postmodern age, and especially as I struggle to understand God’s desire for The Quest at Bel Air. As the church grows, it has been continually difficult for people to plug into community, or to feel any sense of belonging. Some of that responsibility falls on those sitting in the pews on Sunday, and their responsibility to get involved and take opportunities that are offered. And some of that responsibility falls on the church as it tries to figure out “who it is”, “what it looks like”, etc. Both parties, extending hands out to each other, and taking hold of one another. That seems like the proper analogy for me.

Well, I haven’t figured out these answers yet, but am searching. But today I was in Dallas, TX visiting my fiance’s parents. And we went to church at The Village Church where I heard a great sermon from the lead pastor Matt Chandler (check out the sermon for 1/9/05 when it posts). He’s in the midst of a series on love, and today he discussed the role of community in our love relationship with God. He began with a quote from John Calvin in Volume 4, Section 2, Chapter 1, where Calvin stated that God is Father, and the church is mother. (After further information, I have tracked that quote has been attributed to Cyprian, not John Calvin.

This quote got me thinking a lot about the importance of church, and the community found in church. Sometimes we can get so down on the church, and community, because we feel like our needs aren’t being met, so the first thing we often want to do is complain, or be bitter, or usually, go find another church.

But the quote from Calvin expresses the important unit of father and mother, and our relationship to God and how it is tied to the community of church. In Donald Miller’s latest book, Searching for God Knows What, he quotes Augustine as saying, “The church is my mother and a whore.” I can’t find that quote anywhere…so if it’s true, obviously I haven’t read Augustine well enough, or done my Google search that well. But I would say that that quote that Miller attributes to Augustine summarizes our feelings about church at times. We both adore her, and at times, can’t stand her. (If you know where this quote is located, you will have some type of prize).

These are just some thoughts to ponder as we all continue to ask questions about church and community and as Bel Air heads into a six week home group Lenten series. Hopefully this will be a time where people who feel outside of community can get plugged into it, and those who are in it can continue to grow and encourage the church.

If you are looking for some resources or a good book on the role of community in church, start by reading a book by the pastor of San Clemente Presbyterian Church, Tod Bolsinger. His book is titled It Takes a Church to Raise a Christian: How The Community of God Transforms Lives.

The Movie: “Constantine”

I have been hearing a lot of buzz about this movie Constantine, especially in Christian circles, as it deals with the themes of spiritual warfare and casting out demons, etc…and in Los Angeles. How relevant for us.

Craig Detweiller has an interesting article in the new hardcopy issue of Relevant Magazine. You won’t find the article in the online magazine though.

Dating & Marriage: Is It Love Or Infatuation? And What’s Important…Fear of God, Looks, Money, Power, etc.

If you are like me, living in LA, it’s hard not to be star struck, even if you have lived here for years. The fascination may have waned over the years, but you still get a little excited when you see someone out in public. Like the time i saw Adam Brody, also known as Seth Cohen from the O.C., out at the Coral Tree, and in line with Dustin Hoffman. Or the time I saw Arnold Schwarzenegger and his family at the Coral Tree as well. Hmm, maybe that’s a good place to see stars, which is probably why I stopped going there.

And with our fascination comes our tendency to elevate them to a certain status level, where we want to read all about them, dress like them, go where they hang out, and eat and drink. Why do you think the tabloids sell so much? We want to be like them. And because of this fascination and curiousity to catch up on what they are doing we begin to build a sort of false familiarity and intimacy, thinking we know who they are, what they are like, based soley on their public persona, and no first hand experiential knowledge.

I do this. We all do this. So I was somewhat surprised when I was driving to the gym tonight and I heard on KROQ that Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston split. I was sort of shocked because I thought they were different. They seemed like an ideal couple. But how would I know? I don’t know them. My perception of them and who they were, and are, was solely shaped by the movies they were in, the photos we saw of them, the interviews they gave, and the things People, Us or In Touch magazines touted about them. Hardly credible evidence to claim any knowledge of someone.

Ultimately, I think most of us were infatuated with Brad and Jenn, “the couple”, and who they were as status symbols of looks, money, power, fashion and more. We all want to have that sort of image to those around us. We all want to be in a relationship that has some of those qualities. But as a Christian we are also looking for something different. I don’t know anything of Brad and Jenn’s spirituality, but I do know that for those of us who want to seriously consider dating someone, the other person’s spiritual life plays the most important part. Or does it? Should it? Is it balanced out with other components as well? Wherever you come down on this issue, I think we often sacrifice the spiritual role in a relationship for the more immediate and tangible things.

Much of scripture has many different things to say on this issue. In the Old Testament Proverbs 31:10-31 makes the case for a woman who fears God over charm and looks:

30Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.

The woman to be admired and praised

is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-GOD.

31Give her everything she deserves!

Festoon her life with praises!

In fact, if you think looks are so important over and against everything else, you better take a look at the humorous comment earlier in Proverbs:

Proverbs 11:22 (New International Version)

22 Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout

is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.

So when choosing a “Wife of Noble Character” as Proverbs describes it, or a husband of the same quality, fear of God seems to be the overriding factor. Not looks, money, power, sex, fashion, etc., etc. Why? A simple but true statement would be to say that most of the Bible proclaims a fear of the LORD as more important than any other quality one can have. I guess that’s why I was somewhat surprised at one of our online Quest polls a couple of months ago. When asked what quality was the most important when finding a boyfriend or girlfriend, the response “seeking God” finished tied for second with “intelligence” while “attractiveness” finished in first, almost five percentage points ahead.

So how does this play out in my dating life? What about dating non-Christians? What about marrying non-Christians? Well, a proper answer would take more time and space than this entry will allow, so I will turn your attention to Paul’s writings in 2 Corinthians 6:14 (New International Version) where he states the following:

14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?

Wow! That’s a difficult statement to understand and read at times. So I will allow you the thinking and reflecting and praying about these issues that have been discussed. Ultimately, I think that just as we were infatuated with Brad and Jen and their supposed ideal relationship, we too become infatuated with someone, sometimes being blinded in our infatuation to what God’s Word says is really important.

I am no expert in this field. I have just recently gotten engaged to the woman I have been dating since May of 2003. But through our relationship I have truly learned what is important for us as a couple, and what things fade and are inconsequential, and what is meant to last and endure and prosper. I am almost 30, so I have waited a while to find myself in this position, but many of you are dating, or are thinking about dating, and you may never know when that times comes. That’s why it’s important for you to develop and form healthy dating habits now, because it’s not like one day you will just decide to throw on the switch and make the right decisions in relationships.

So as we soon head into a series on sex, talking about dating and marriage, and as we get closer to that much loved, and much hated holiday, Valentines Day, I know that dating is on your minds. That’s why I would like us to be in open dialogue about these issues, as well as providing some resources for you.

The first article are questions that one should consider asking of themself when they are thinking about dating someone.

12 Questions to Ask Yourself About Someone You Might Date

The second article is about 12 Tests that can help determine if your relationship is based more on love or infatuation.

12 Tests of Love by Chip Ingram

I as well as others would like to hear from you. So fire off any comments you may have.

YES…IT’S OFFICIAL…I’M OBSESSED WITH BLOGGING

Friends, I have it bad. I didn’t know exactly how bad it was until my fiance’s family jokingly, but lovingly referred to me as “the blogger” during Christamas break. Why? Well, it wasn’t unusual to find me several times a day scouring through the blogosphere pulling reading all the news items of the day.

if you don’t know what a blog is, then you are like many people. But you better find out soon, because it’s sweeping the world. If you aren’t sure, an easy crash course is to visit Hugh Hewitt who many consider to be the godfather of blogging. If you still aren’t sure, then pick up his new book BLOG which hasn’t been released yet and is already climbing the Amazon charts.

And just in case I wasn’t obsessed enough, I entered a contest in the blogosphere, related to the book. You can view this contest at Radio Blogger

You could have seen my first ever, and lame attempt to put together some photo shop picture for the contest, but I did it in a psd file and not a jpeg….still learning….

later,
rhett

In the Aftermath of the Tsunami, God is in the Forefront

We seem to be people with a very short memory at times.  It was only a little more than three years ago that the Twin Towers in New York came crashing down in the aftermath of a terrorist attack, yet we seem to have moved on in certain respects which are beneficial, and in others which are not.

We have picked up and moved on, making new what was possible in the wake of the terrorist attack.  And we have also moved on in our discussions about God since then as well.  That was until an earthquake, followed by a tsunami wreaked havoc in parts of Southeast Asia.  And now God is all of a sudden back in the headlines.

God has always been there, but like the tourists lying on beaches, not knowing what lay ahead, so it is with God sometimes.  He is always present, but we tend to easily submerge him under the surface, and out of our minds, and out of our dialogues.  Then without knowing what happened, there God is in the forefront again.  Whether God is present in our minds and civil discourse may be a matter a free choice, or a matter of not knowing where else to turn when such devastating things happen.

The brilliant French Jesuit philosopher, paleontologist and biologist Pierre Teilhard de Chardin Pierre Teilhard de Chardin had a great quote when he said, “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”  So though God may not be always be in the forefront of our discussions, unless there is a disaster, nonetheless He is always present.

And it seems that these last few weeks have awakened our spiritual beings with the plight of humanity, begging God, and anyone and everyone for some type of answer to what has happened.

Any tragic or devastating event can raise all types of theological questions, but the most pressing seem to be the following:

The Problem of Evil The Sovereignty of God

The theology and conversation pertaining to this disaster, and these theological issues is broad and diverse, but to begin a dialogue and discussion on these issues there are a few good sites to visit:

Dr. Mark Roberts
Dr. Al Mohler

I hope that these sites, whether you agree with them or not, spur you on to begin to ask questions in the wake of such devastating loss.

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